How would you define/describe a Chassidic Woman?

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Motek, I totally agree it's Pathetic.
I'll give you an example. I spent a few days in a bungalow colony with a very mixed crowd. I was so shocked to find out that some of these women were actually Chassidic when their husbands wore shtreimels on Shabbos. There was no other way I could tell. And they said that they consider themselves Chassidish.
Of course there are all different types of Chassidus and Chassidim and I've come across many who's whole lifestyle is pure Chassidus and so beautiful. That's actually what I wrote in my previous post that there are Chassidim who can be described by their Chassidish Lifestyle, Behavior and their way of dress and then there are Chassidim that can be defined basically by superficial things.

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Just noticed this thread: I would definte a Chassidish woman as someone who follows the Chassidishe minhagim and who goes by a certain Rebbe.

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arita - you might find this thread interesting

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Thanks

To me a chassidishe woman is someone who is just so in love with her role as a Jewish wife and mother. To me as someone who is somewhat yeshivish, that is wonderful! To me chassidism does not preclude the supremacy of Torah, but the dveykus to Hashem that we get from doing mitzvos . A chassidishe woman sees it as her avodas Hashem to help her family enjoy learning Torah and doing mitzvos. Not that litvish don't , but the Taam is different with a chassidishe lady. My motto is "Eyzehu Chacham Halomed Mikol Haadam".
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Someone brought this thread to my attention to get my take on it, I suppose.
I'm not too good at definitions. I can just tell you my story.
I was brought up in a fairly modern American family. We made Aliya in 1971 and I went to Chorev, which was a school modeled on the hashkafa of Rav Shamshon Refael Hirsh. We had Chareidim and also more modern girls in the school, as well as different kinds of teachers. So, I was not Chareidi, by any means. At the ripe old age of 31 I met my Bashert. Turns out he was/is an Amshinover Chossid and also a descendant of R' Duvid'l MiLelov. We married 15 years ago and I guess, since then, I have been an Amshinov Chossid.
How is my life different from my former life? Well, my husband goes to the rebbe for Yom Tov. At first I had a very difficult time with this, as Chagim were "family time" in my mind. So, now, for Rosh Hashana we rent an apartment in Bayit Vegan so that we can be together. Yom Kippur I am home with my girls and my husband goes with the boys to the rebbe. Shavuos is another chag that he must be at the rebbe, so we work something out.

Another thing - my husband is very, very connected to Kivrei Tsaddikim. He goes to daven at Meron alot. He also goes to the previous rebbe's kever to daven. He also runs to his parents' kevarim on Yom Kippur Koton (whenever he can). Davening by kevorim is a big thing for him (and now, for me as well). Last week we took our kids out of school and drove up to Meron to daven (the day of Parshat Haman).

I have so much respect and admiration for the Amshinovers that I know. Mostly I am close with the rebbe's family members (mother, sister, wife and daughters). Totally humble, warm, down to earth, accepting of me and my opinions, special people. Their holiness is written all over them. I feel totally comfortable in their midst.

For me, though, what defines me as a chassidish woman is my unequivical willingness to do whatever the rebbe says. He doesn't tell us how to run our lives. He only answers questions when he's asked. But, if we ask and he answers we always, always listen. And it's not always easy. So, people here may criticize me for not sounding like a Chassidish woman (because I drive or don't know what a "shpitzel" is), but, frankly, I think I am as Chassidish or more Chassidish than anyone who keeps all the outer trappings. I truly believe in the holiness of my rebbe and am willing to go to the end of the world to do what he says.

If I think of anything else I will post again.

I'm back.
For the record, we are completely Chareidi (lest anyone suspect that we are "modern" Chassidish). My boys are in cheder and my girls in Beis Ya'akov. I, the girl who grew up watching tv and movies, married a man who has NEVER watched a movie in his life. Now, that's refreshing Very Happy

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Posted: Tue, Jan 17 2012, 1:54 pm Post subject:

Breslov also does it.
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Zehava- check the thread date before digging it up. That thread is 4 years old.

Posted: Tue, Jan 17 2012, 2:06 pm Post subject:

Oh sorry I didnt realize

Did I say I am pure? I said I am trying to keep myself pure. Definitely not having an Internet connection in the house makes it a bit easier. No I am not Perfect and that's why I am still on the phone chatting here. That's what being chassidish means to me, like someone said in a different thread, making gedarim. I am not here to say who is pure and who's not . I'm speaking for myself that's all. I was trying to make a point that not using a computer is a goOd thing not a bad one