DS tells me to "go away"..

Senior Member Joined: May 18 2008 Posts: 101

My 2 year old tells me to go away and stop it when I am doing something he doesn't like aka, telling him no or even lowering his toy piano so that its not insanely loud. I know there is the concept of the terrible 2's, but is it worth telling him not to speak like that to mommy. He understands, and we could tell him not to, and sometimes my husband tells him to give mommy a kiss b/c when he tells me to go away it hurts me. Do I punish him (put him in his bed) when he tells me this. Please help. I want him to know it is not right, but I also don't want to over do it. He is 2 - how much will it really effect him in the future?

Executive Member Joined: Jun 04 2008 Posts: 375

my ds also kept on telling me to stop what I was doing cause he wanted me constantly to play with him, I very nicely explained to him that I have to do it (whatever I was doing ie. cooking cleaning etc.) once I'm done I'll come and play with you, I told him meanwhile to prepare whatever he wants me to play with him, sometimes he took out story books and other times the mega blocks. I always made my time even just for a few minutes to sit down with him in between doing my things, this way he got to know that I have to do whatever I'm doing and I give of my time for him also. ( by now he comes to me and asks me, mommy when you finish can you play with me with ........or read to me this and this book.)

Posted: Thu, Sep 04 2008, 2:06 pm Post subject:

I think in a gentle but firm way you need to tell him "it's not nice to tell mommy to go away" ... soon he'll get it ...
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Senior Member Joined: May 18 2008 Posts: 101

so basically, I pretend to cry when he tells me it, and it makes him feel terrible and almost cry as well. I feel bad, but what else can I do? he has a wonderful heart, and he stops when he sees he did something that made mommy sad. Any other suggestions? I don't like making my son feel bad!

Gold Member Joined: Oct 27 2006 Posts: 2416 Location: NY

My DS pushes me away Sad

Gold Member Joined: Apr 06 2006 Posts: 1192 Location: usa

why dont u tell him that theres a nicer way to say that.
also in my humble opinionif u punish a kid by putting them in their bed, theyre going to consider going to sleep a punishment

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Senior Member Joined: May 18 2008 Posts: 101

see, I don't know if I agree with that. I told him firmly and he didn't care. Do you know of any chinuch books I can buy that would be extraodinary and talk about disciplining in a very gentle yet firm way?