Do you give baby boy gifts as often as baby girl gifts?

You know what I mean...not because pple are having more boys Confused

, because you go to a bris, but there's not necessarily something for the girl to go to.
When my daughter was born, we got very few things, and she was our first, but when my son was born, our second, we got much more.
It makes sense to more likely give when it's a boy, but is it fair?? (rhetorical question)

I'm davka under the impression that a girl is spoilt a lot more?
_________________

"You will have many many children and make successful shidduchim beh", rebbetzin Esther Jungreis
"It's all cultural, disagree respectfully", me

Moderator Joined: Dec 04 2005 Posts: 6167 Location: israel

If you only look at gifts, it might not be fair. But look at how much you spent on the bris and mohel.

The answer is to make a large simchat bat when you have a girl.

People obviously feel obligated if they go to a bris....so all you have to do is have a equally big celebration for the girl.

Your brother probably got more bar mitzvah gifts (by far) then you got bat mitzvah--was that fair?

Gold Member Joined: May 24 2006 Posts: 1527

Personally I give to all my close friends when they have babies regardless of whether it is a boy or girl. If I am not cloe but going to the bris to say mazal tov etc. Then I won't bring a gift. (I don't mean if I am invied to the seudah)

The thing is that while most people will make something for a bar mitzva, if only the shul, many don't do anything but at best a big birthday for a bat mitzva...

I wouldn't consider it "fair" or "unfair" as you put it....I also don't really quite agree. I made a bris and a pidyon haben and did not get many gifts at either event. Almost all the gifts I received were from people who would have given us a baby gift if they hadn't come or if I had had a girl...It was mostly money from relatives who would have sent it no matter what...
_________________
"You can say this for ready-mixes - the next generation isn't going to have any trouble making pies exactly like mother used to make." ~Earl Wilson

we got just as many gifts for our boys as for our girls. the brissim were late both times and most people gave us gifts straight away. We had the kiddushim on shabbos, also when the baby was a few weeks old.

Posted: Mon, Jun 02 2008, 11:24 am Post subject:

ah the way you posed your thread - I was about to say it's the opposite ...

yup my kids can tell you well ... bris - upsherin - bar mitzvah ...

with my first 2 kids I actually got a lot of baby gifts though - girl/boy ...

they start off sexist ... grrrrrrrrrrr Twisted Evil

_________________
don't wonder why people go crazy ... rather wonder why we don't
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
NUTso but cute ~ things balance out Nervous