Trying to quit

Posted: Fri, Feb 29 2008, 9:06 am Post subject: Trying to quit

I have a job, I hate it. It's awkward and not the ideal. I am spending more than 70 dollars a week on taxies. I only get 370 dollars a week in my paycheck.
I found a morning job that is around the corner from my apt and so no taxies. And it's only a morning job but they have already found me 3 different neighbors who want me to babysit their kids!
I called up the first ppl and told them its not working out cuz I'm losing money in the deal with taxies. I told them I refuse to take taxies bc of the money and bc I had bd experiences. They told me theyd call me back after the brainstormed. I dont want them to brainstorm! I want them to let me go!
I offered to stay an extra week til they found someone else but they said theyd never find anybody in that amt of time.
They said they put the girls in after school programs to fit my schedule which makes NO sense. I was their anyway....and they said theyre spending more money on these classes.
I dont know wht to do.
They said they found rides for me (I have no idea with who) and I would only have to find rides for Monday and Wednesday.
They wont give up and I want them too!

Any advice would be appreciated!

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If I was a parent who hired a sitter I would be VERY miffed, to put it mildly, if that sitter decided to get up one day and quit. They have nothing elso to do with their children and they rely upon you to watch them. If you felt that the pay was no good, or the commute was too expensive, you should have told them that from the beginning. You took this job because it was a decent option for you at the time, so is it fair to just up and leave?
On the other hand, if you have no contract with the family, then perhaps you don't have an obligation?
I would ask someone you trust, and since everyone here always says LOR, perhaps you would like to do that.
HOWEVER: Tov shem tov mishemen tov - how will doing something like this (quitting in the middle) affect your good name AND what if you quit and the other job falls thru... these things happen, you know.
The most ideal thing to do, (if you have not yet told them you are quitting), is to let them know, at the end of the school year, that you will not be continuing with them. Make sure you have another job before you do this. That is the menchlich thing to do.

Posted: Fri, Feb 29 2008, 9:20 am Post subject: re: Trying to quit

I din't really understand what you're doing, but it's usually self understood that any babysitting arrangement etc is for a school year. It's not just finding someone, but also children getting used to someone new. A week's notice is certainly unfair. You should have thought out all these disadvantages before you started. At least they are going to help you regarding the taxis, so that will already be better financially.

Posted: Fri, Feb 29 2008, 12:16 pm Post subject:

I def feel bad for them, I'm not a bad person just teling them I'm not coming in om Monday. I offered them a week or two.
Being Chassidish my husband will not let me ride with a man and he will not let me ride with a single girl. (Dont ask and dont bash)
I don't want to ruin my name but the job just isnt right for me.
They said they wanted me to work full time but the second week in they made me take 2 weeks off, how is that full time? and they cit down my hours and my pay...I think I have a right to find a better situation.
My husband asked the Rebbe and the Gabbai who we talked to, (A member of the family and a tzaddik.) said that we shudnt even bother the Rebbe with such a question cuz the answer is obvios, go to the other job....

The problem isnt the money anymore, the problem is that I never want to see these people again.

Posted: Fri, Feb 29 2008, 12:30 pm Post subject:

stick your foot down-tell them that u need something closer and this it whats best for u now.
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Posted: Fri, Feb 29 2008, 12:36 pm Post subject:

K I officially quit

Posted: Fri, Feb 29 2008, 6:27 pm Post subject:

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Yup, you didn't mention that they were playing around with you. Okay, so now I can say GOOD LUCK with your new job and I hope you are happier and that no one plays around with you.
That is one thing I don't understand: if you are paying someone to mind the most precious asset you have, don't you want to make sure they are happy? Shocked

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 2:28 am Post subject: Re: re: Trying to quit

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 4:31 am Post subject: Re: re: Trying to quit

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 10:04 am Post subject:

You're all forgiven! Smile

I did offer my services for the next week or two for a transition stage and they said they'll probably find some1 for Monday (She said this on Friday morning.)
Last night I called up and he answered the fone and I asked do you need me on Monday and he said he has to ask his wife! TOTAL AND COMPLETE LIE cuz she doesnt have anything to do with decisions,he's the one who rules the house! I asked him to call me back when he knew.
So I'm waiting till 10 am to call them again cuz they still havent called back. If they dont answer I'm going to leave a message telling them that since I havent heard back from them I will go ahead and assume that they dont need me.
Cuz the ppl who hired me really deserve to know if they will have a babysitter 24 hours in advance!
Fair enough?

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go to the new job. they dont keep to their end of the story. I hate when parents do that to us. we babysit their kids with all our hearts and they can just play games with us. like quit and refuse to pay .... I only had a few sour lemons . nowadays I really check and make sure that the shiddich between the mother and me will workout. and everything is on papeir. they have a contract and they have to pay me no matter if they decide to go to the moon they will stillhave to pay me/

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 4:53 pm Post subject:

raizy- you get paid by the hour or the week/year?

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 5:00 pm Post subject: re: Trying to quit

Rivky, I don't know why you are looking for problems. Didn't you officially quit? If so, you no longer need feel achrayus. You gave your notice. Don't leave the door open for last minute glitches.
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Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 5:04 pm Post subject:

TR- what do you mean?
I'm not looking for problems. They just havent called me back yet and it's Sunday afternoon...

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 5:20 pm Post subject: re: Trying to quit

I don't understand. You spoke to them and told them you were leaving. Tehy acknowledged that? If they did, then you are free to leave, no?

Posted: Sun, Mar 02 2008, 5:32 pm Post subject:

They finally acknowledged it but I OFFERED my sesrvices for the next week or two if they want until they find someone new. It's Sunday afternoon at 3:30 and they havent called me back to let me know if they want me coming tomoroow or not which means I cant tell my new employer if I'm coming this week or not....

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Hope you've sorted it all out. Just want to wish you luck & hope this job is more to your liking! Smile

Posted: Mon, Mar 03 2008, 3:14 am Post subject: re: Trying to quit

Posted: Mon, Mar 03 2008, 6:48 pm Post subject:

Thank you bubby!

I said I couldnt continue working for them and then I offered to work 4 another week or two til they found a replacement. They said they werent sure yet I they knew. I called them I think 4 times yesterday and every time he said they still didnt know. I'm a nice person and told them to call me when they knew. So FINALLY at 6:30 pm on Sunday night they said they didnt need me. I called up the other people and told them I could start working today and I did. It was really good.