Friday Purim: Purim Suedah vs Shabbos Dinner

Ok, here is the deal. DH and I are the only frummies in our respective families. Everyone else will be working a full day on Friday and NOT having a Purim suedah. Shabbos starts around 6pm. I want to invite DH's family (mine does not live in the area). Can I call Purim suedah for 5pm or 5:30pm and extend the meal into shabbat (assuming we light on time and keep all of the laws of shabbat once it starts of course) or does once we light the Shabbos candles does that effectively end the Purimness of the meal eventhough we haven't benched yet? Would we be able to make kiddush with the Purim meal still in progress or do we have to end the Purim suedah (bench), reset for Shabbos and then make kiddush?

Star Havah

Gold Member Joined: Nov 02 2006 Posts: 1624

My sister has a chabad house, and she was told there is a way to make the seudah start on Fri. afternoon, and lead into Shabbos. She's trying to figure out how exactly she wants to do her Purim Program. She said she's gotta figure out all the details, and that she needs to discuss it with the Rov. So I'd imagine that asking is your best bet.

Thanks for your replies. I sent an email to my Rav. I will let you all know what he says.

Star Havah

Gold Member Joined: Nov 02 2006 Posts: 1624

Are you quite sure your relatives will be working, since it is a non-Jewish holiday? (good friday)

But yes, I just heard a rav say you can do this - start seudah b4 shabbos, break for maariv, candlelighting kiddush etc and then resume (or start again) But it is complicated.