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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 01 2008, 9:50 pm    Post subject: Re: re: seating guests
 
Ribbie Danzinger wrote:
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Ribbie, I think it's a yekkish minhag iirc.


I seem to remember a story about the Besht that while he was still "hidden" his wife would sit next to him when they had guests, as was the habit of the lower classes, so that no-one would recognize him as a tzaddik. If it wasn't the chassidish minhag, then that story wouldn't be very significant.


It is definitely also a chassidishe 'minhag'. My whole family does it like that. But I always wonder if they started out like that as a young couple too. Sounds a bit weird for 2 people to sit at opposite ends of the table. So when do they switch?
I sit near my husband. I have a few kids but have not switched yet, dont know if I will. But when we have guest, I DONT sit there. Move down towards the end of the table.

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Husband at head of table, you next to him on one side, the guest husband next to him on the other side, and guest wife nest to guest husband.


I dont think its very proper to sit opposite someone elses husband.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 01 2008, 10:30 pm    Post subject:
 
peach wrote:
is that out of practicality or b'shita?


Yes.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 01 2008, 10:59 pm    Post subject:
 
chocolate moose wrote:
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is that out of practicality or b'shita?


Yes.


Which one? Practicality or b'shita?
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PostPosted: Wed, Jan 02 2008, 1:19 am    Post subject: re: seating guests
 
dh and I are at opposite ends. if the couple want to sit next to each other, they are in the middle of the side; man next to a ds, wife next to him with a dd on the other side
closer friends don't mind sitting apart

years ago, I sat next to dh. invariably I would be across from a man who would be a little too interested in conversing with me.
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PostPosted: Wed, Jan 02 2008, 5:04 am    Post subject: Re: re: seating guests
 
cindy324 wrote:
I would seat the guy next to your husband on either side, and his wife right next to him, and you sit next to your husband on the other side.

then that makes me sit across from the husband bec my dh is at the head of the table...
that sounds best?
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PostPosted: Wed, Jan 02 2008, 7:24 am    Post subject: re: seating guests
 
I would seat next to dh on one side of the table and the other couple opposite of us (no one at the heads of the table).
Breslov, does your DH have to seat at the head of the table or would he consider this?
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PostPosted: Wed, Jan 02 2008, 8:05 am    Post subject: re: seating guests
 
I can ask him what he thinks... It actually doesnt sound so bad, applepie...
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PostPosted: Wed, Jan 02 2008, 1:01 pm    Post subject: re: seating guests
 
interesting how eveyone answered. everyone is thinking about a square or rectangular table. my in laws have a round table, so ppl really are sitting wherever, as it is one big circle. my father in law sits at one place and my mother in law in another and the guests sit around the rest of the space.

growing up and now my husband and I as well, do it this way: the man of the ouse sat at one head of teh table and the wife sits near him. the guests are fished out to the other side of the table and worked around till the wife. I HATE it when my husband and I have been invited to someone where they put my husband near the husband and me near the wife, I do not like that at all, I like to be sitting near my husband.
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