Accidents, help

Silver Member Joined: Feb 14 2007 Posts: 764

I'm so frustrated and show the frustration to my 5 year old who keeps wetting his bed (I've had him in pull ups and it even leaks through). He also forgets to go at least once a day. This hasn't happened since he was 3-4. He's potty trained to sleep through the night since 4. Why the regression? I'm so confused. I'm irritated when he's playing and forgets to go.

Posted: Wed, Nov 14 2007, 2:12 am Post subject: re: Accidents, help

I can't know what's going on in his life to trigger this but I can suggest a different appraoch to frustration (which usually doens't help, only makes things worse). Some of my kids weren't dry at nt for ages. When one of them was 8 (!) I promised her a brand new pillow, mattresss (don't remember which) when she totally stopped. That was the push she needed.
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Some kids don't outgrow bedwetting until they reach teenage years. Nothing much you can do about it but avoid frustration, guilt, shame, and embarrassment, and keep the laundry and shower going.

Forgetting to go while playing is a different story though. Do you have him clean the mess himself? That could do the trick.
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Posted: Wed, Nov 14 2007, 12:47 pm Post subject: re: Accidents, help

I had a kid who wet until he was 13. He also wouldn't notice during the day that he needed to go until his pants were wet.

I played it very low key and just had him be responsible for taking the linen off his bed and changing it, and showering in the morning.

You can be sure the child isn't doing it on PURPOSE. So, no need to get mad at him.
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Posted: Wed, Nov 14 2007, 3:24 pm Post subject: re: Accidents, help

I agree with GR. Also, the nighttime bedwetting is better contained by Goodnites. They're made for older kids and won't leak, as they absorb a lot more than pull-ups.

Posted: Wed, Nov 14 2007, 3:33 pm Post subject: re: Accidents, help

Silver Member Joined: Feb 14 2007 Posts: 764

I agree that I've completely taken the wrong approach with my frustration towards this. I've threatened to put him in pull ups during the day. I know it's wrong behavior. He gets scared when I say that but I'm tired of being places and having no clothes to change him with. I'm the one who has to be better prepared I guess. I'll bring changes of clothes from now on and take him to the bathroom more frequently. As far as bedtime goes, I'm surprised he was dry for so many months and then went back to being untrained. Maybe he's too tired to wake up.

Executive Member Joined: Dec 16 2007 Posts: 354

I should start a thread that ppl should know. my almost 3 year old daughter started accidents every day. I was mad screamed even gave her little petchelech. went to the doc. no urine infection no strep the last thing she told me was check for pin worms . at night with a flashlight guess what she had. I treated her w/ a medicine they perscribed me and b"h she stopped so do the same check for pinworms

Silver Member Joined: Feb 14 2007 Posts: 764

how do you do that for a boy?

Executive Member Joined: Dec 16 2007 Posts: 354

about a boy I dont know aska doctor.but as far as for girls pin worms crawl to the front thats why they can loose control.