I HATE YOM TOV

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

I hate yom tov!! my kids schedule is sooooo crazy. My 18 month old is soooo tired and is crying and screaming away he wants to get out of his crib. I CAN'T TAKE THIS!! I myself am very tired from yom tov and this is really making me go insane Banging head

Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 7:55 pm Post subject: re: I HATE YOM TOV

it will take a while, but things will settle down back to normal. I know its hard. I make a point in not going out for night meals at all. my kids are in bed at normal bed times cuz I know how insane it can get.
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Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

this is what I originally wanted to do except I don't have any pesach dishes and I was backed up with everything. My brother got married exactly 2 weeks before Pesach, my kids were sick the week before the wedding so my cleaning was pushed off for the week after the wedding not leaving me enough time to get everything I needed for pesach!! THIS IS REALLY GETTING TO ME!! HE WONT STOP SCREAMING!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Banging head

Silver Member Joined: Jun 05 2006 Posts: 894

Screaming doesn't hurt babies. However it really does grate on parental nerves. Go somewhere where you can't hear him and read a book for ten minutes and drink some tea or coffee. Then, when you are calmer, you will deal with it better.

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

He's been screaming for a good 20 minutes already!!! I'm debating if I should just take him out and when he is falling on his face I'll just put him back in his crib

Silver Member Joined: Jun 05 2006 Posts: 894

20 minutes is not a huge deal either. Offer him a drink and a quick book or song, then plonk him back in. AND GO SOMEWHERE WHERE YOU CAN'T HEAR HIM.

Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 8:10 pm Post subject:

wouldn't he just scream himself to sleep ... what if you hold him till he falls asleep in your arms will he quietly fall asleep ... that might be better for both of you in the long run cause he'll fall asleep and you won't be so nervous from the screaming ... and boy those hammering heads really give me a headache ... I guess It's easier to sympathize ... eh?
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Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 8:31 pm Post subject:

I think it's a little different if you're training him to sleep for the night ... and if he's wacked and off schedule ... somehow they're a little nuttier that way ...

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

all of these suggestions sound great however: my husband is working late tonight because of yom tov (and late tomorrow). My sonny boy is afraid of his father so he would go straight to sleep had dh been here. I actually took him out and rocked him to sleep in my arms. He fell asleep and didnt wake up while I was walking on the toys to his room and the second I put him in: HE WOKE UP AND IS SCREAMING AGAIN! I guess I'll just hold him again and wait until dh comes home. How exciting. Let you know what happens.

Silver Member Joined: Oct 01 2006 Posts: 927

E59Y... I sooooooooo understand you. My kid is doing that same exact thing to me right now!!! And he is also 18 months old. Is something wrong with 59th street? What 20 min? He just fell asleep after crying for ONE HOUR... I went in twice to calm him down but all he wanted was I should stay with him..I could not stand his crying but I'm happy I didn't give in... good luck to you. How is he doing?

Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 8:50 pm Post subject:

okay ... if he is that unconsolable ... if it were me I would just put him in my bed and both of us go to sleep ...

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

My 3yr old is laying in my bed WIDE AWAKE, and I finally came up with putting my screaming sonny boy in the carriage. He's awake, I don't really care, JUST BE QUIET!! My throat is hurting me and I just want to take a long hot shower and go to sleep!! my bed is calling me..... oh well!! B"H!! It's a times like these where I feel silly for complaining because I know that people in a different situation would give anything to have what I'm having with my kiddoes right now. I hope I didnt insult anyone there.

Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 9:05 pm Post subject: re: I HATE YOM TOV

okay so it's pajama party time ... all of you go to sleep in same bed ... when dh comes back he could transfer sleeping kiddoes ... at least you can fall asleep ...

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

hahahahhahah!! Did it once maybe twice and almost fell out of bed!!!! it's pretty quiet here now B"H!!!

Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 9:43 pm Post subject:

oh good ... shhhhh ... go to sleep too ...

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 25 2006 Posts: 3199

I wish I could go to sleep but I need a shower to relax now, Im still too worked up and besides my daughter could so nicely leave my bed and go see what her brother is doing..... I think I'll wait for DH. Thanks for the idea anyway, maybe I'll just lie down on the couch.......

Posted: Wed, Apr 11 2007, 10:22 pm Post subject: re: I HATE YOM TOV

Silver Member Joined: Jul 26 2006 Posts: 576

my kids were giving me a hard time too. my 3 year old was crying for every silly thing. my 2 yr old was saying "da da" to him and that his crayon fell down on the floor and he wanted me to pick it up....I just sat them down by the computer and let them watch for an hour and a half. which I never do! finally I put them I bed and thought they were asleep for the night. no such look. from 8:30 til 10 one or the other was kvetching/crying. I had a cleaning lady here, and she kept on telling me "babying crying..." I couldn't explain to her that, I dont wanna go into their room..." so I had to go in and talk to them, and make them comfy...what a night.

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 04 2006 Posts: 2694

All my sympathies to you OP. Trust me, I know what a crying baby can do to you!!! Hope you're feeling better now.

Just as an aside - I think the title on this thread is way too negative. I don't think it's healthy to have an attitude like "I hate yom tov", especially for the chinuch of your children.

Don't all shoot at the same time now.

Just figured I'd bring up the point. I remember hearing a story about why some of the children of the original immigrants on the lower east side, who had such mesiras nefesh for yiddishkeit and shabbos, went off the derech and others did not. Someone said (can't remember who, I think it was a rosh yeshiva) that the children who always heard their parents say "s'iz shver tzu zein a yid - it's hard to be a jew" (with losing their jobs after every shabbos they kept, it was definitely very hard) those are the ones whose kids lost interest in yiddishkeit.

That's what the title of this thread reminded me of even before I read the content.

But all the same, OP, I hope you're doing better now and I can totally relate!