Are my kids the only ones??

Posted: Sun, Jul 29 2012, 6:07 am Post subject: Are my kids the only ones??

Are they the only ones who fight with eachother and hit eachother?

Are they the only ones who sometimes dont listen when I ask them to do something?

Am I the only one who needs to repeat myself over and over untiol they do it?

Am I the only one who is not always all smiles and can get cranky with the kids and sometimes shout?

Is it normal that I dont always parent them in the way I probably should, not always saying the right thing, even though I try my best?

It is the first day of the holidays and I am ready for them to go back to school Smile

Gold Member Joined: Oct 04 2010 Age: 44 Posts: 1565

LOL! You & your kids are normal!
It gets better.

Executive Member Joined: Jan 23 2008 Posts: 413

You sound just like me!!! When does it get better? Mine range from 18-1.

Gold Member Joined: Oct 04 2010 Age: 44 Posts: 1565

When they go away to yeshiva or get married! Hang in there Smile

Posted: Sun, Jul 29 2012, 8:39 am Post subject: re: Are my kids the only ones??

Really? I feel like my kids and I are the only ones like this. All the other Imamothers sound so confident in their parenting and their kids behave all the time....doesnt work over here.

What do you do then when they dont listen, or they hit a sibling, or davka do something naughty??

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 18 2005 Posts: 3040

you are so not alone!
first day of a new schedule is really hard. ime, it takes at least a week before I've got my new routines in place. I imagine its hard for the kids to have new routines and hard for them that I am not on my game. so expect misbehavior and expect yourself to be less patient. its normal. you're human (and so are your kids)

Posted: Sun, Jul 29 2012, 10:10 am Post subject: re: Are my kids the only ones??

Thanks everyone!

Its really hard for me to stick to a routine because each day is different in the holidays. I do want to have a basic routine in place though, like mealtimes and bed.

can you give me an example of your routine now?

Silver Member Joined: Nov 07 2010 Age: 33 Posts: 821

I could of wrote that also. Try this link http://imamother.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=155343

good luck

Silver Member Joined: Nov 16 2010 Posts: 538

Have you gone to parenting classes?

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 18 2005 Posts: 3040

Posted: Sun, Jul 29 2012, 4:29 pm Post subject: re: Are my kids the only ones??

Yes, I've been to parenting classes and read loads of books on the subject. Obviously didnt make me supermom, but I'm sure it has helped. I struggle with certain things that don't always happen like in the book. My kids are not easy.

I wish I was good at making routines, but something always seems to get in the way. With young children there is always something happening, for instance, I want breakfast to be between 8 and 9, but then one will oversleep, others will have a huge fight, baby will need feeding....before you know it, its 10...
Just an example though, my kids get their own breakfast.

When you say breakfast routine, do you mean the time of day it takes place? I'd love to get an idea of other peoples routines so that I can get ideas for myself.

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 18 2005 Posts: 3040

By breakfast routine I mean the time we eat, what we eat and how long we spend in the kitchen. In summer, breakfast goes on forever here which I had to get used to. Now I like it that way because it helps pass the time...