When to break fast if told not to fast?

I'm Baruch Hashem 6 months pregnant and was told not to fast.
I am high risk and on medication.

I took my medication with less than an ounce of water but I'm hungry and feel guilty eating.
Rav told me not to even fast till chatzos but does that mean I shoudldn't even fast till the morning?

whenever you break your fast, your husband needs to make havdala for you first (women should not make havdala) but you should drink instead of him. I had a baby a few days ago and we were told that my husband should make havdala for me but since it's 9 b'av we shouldn't drink wine/grape juice. Instead it should be over beer or coffee. I would wait till the morning but my DH won't be home from shul till almost chatzos and I don't know if I can wait that long so I am waiting for him to come home tonight and will hear havdalah soon.

I was told to just say baruch Hamavdil and that my husband will make havdalah tomorrow night. Interesting... Different shita's I guess.

Gold Member Joined: Jul 27 2009 Posts: 1212

Woman CAN make havdala....

Gold Member Joined: Apr 23 2007 Posts: 2442

You neeed to ask you're rav when you should break you're fast. My rav told me that I should def. drink at night already (I'm 11 weeks preg.) and if I need I could eat at night already. So my dh made havdalah for me this morning at abt. 10 00. Last night I was ok with not eating. He made havdalah and I drank the grape juice. Every rav hold diff about woman making havdalah my sil got a psak that she doesnt need to hear havdalah she could eat with out hearing havdalah.

I'm 35 weeks and I was told not to fast at all. My DH told me to make havdala this morning preferably and have my oldest daughter drink the grape juice. He also said that if I have to make it at night, I should make it on a chamar medina so I can drink it myself.

Women can make havdala for themselves. Wouldn't it be a brocha le vatala if a man makes borei pri hagefen or shehakol nihye bidvaro and he doesn't drink it then?

Your dh has to make havdola for himself and anyone else who fasted at the end of the fast...

Where are people getting this idea that a woman can't make havdola?

12 weeks preggo.

Since we knew I wasn't going to fast, dh made havdalah last night and ds drank the grape juice.

I fasted until the morning (which wasn't so easy), because I felt wrong eating at night since we werent' even allowed to as children, though dh kept telling me to eat if I was so sick I ate this morning and then threw up everything....and managed to keep things down since..

Silver Member Joined: May 27 2008 Posts: 733

Im 8 weeks preg. Our rav said no matter which month ur upto you dont need to fast. He also said that we just say burich hamavdil.... & I dont need to hear havdulah before breaking fast. So everyone aylor cuz everyone says different . That was from my chasidish satmar rav.