Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 1:34 am Post subject: Re: re: awareness by miriam adahan
StrawberrySmoothie wrote:
Can someone explain how it works? Whats the system?
Hard to sum up very briefly, but the book is definitely worth reading. The enneagram is a way to understand people's personalities based on nine types (with subtypes under those). It's a very rich way to understand people and I've found that understanding the enneagram really does help me to be more empathetic and patient.
For example, my husband, who is a "one," might react in a way that I think is over-the-top about something he perceives as unjust. But I can remind myself that feeling that way is part of who he is - and I can tell him that I understand that matters of right and wrong are very important to him, and yes, there is an injustice here.... but then, maybe we can try to put it in perspective/give the benefit of the doubt/etc...
That's just one small example. The book is aptly named because reading it does give you an amazing awareness of how people are motivated by different things and perceive things differently based on their personality type.
Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 3:19 am Post subject: re: awareness by miriam adahan
My husband loves the book to. He is a 6 I am a 9. It helped us when we were going through a difficult time with some friends and helped us understand why they were acting the way they did. (They were typical 4's)
Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 4:56 am Post subject: re: awareness by miriam adahan
I'm a healthy 5 with a 4 wing. People mistake my wanting to understand people and thier behavior as being nosy. For me it's more an urge to make sense of something then to know what really goes on in thier lives.
I love the book since I always believed that everybody behaved in a sensical manner and someone acting weird probably has something inner that propells then to behave differently. the book kinda illustrates that by explaining what is kind of the behind the scenes with a person.
Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 6:14 am Post subject: re: awareness by miriam adahan
I don't have any enneagram books now, and I have a question...
How can you tell by observation, if a person is a 1 or a 4?
I know they seem very different, but as an observer, I can't seem to tell whether my teen DS is an unhealthy 1, or a 4...Doesn't an unhealthy 1 look like a 4?
Does an unhealthy 1 go to 4?
PS, I don't think this is discussed in Adahan's book.
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Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 6:18 am Post subject: Re: re: awareness by miriam adahan
chani8 wrote:
I don't have any enneagram books now, and I have a question...
How can you tell by observation, if a person is a 1 or a 4?
I know they seem very different, but as an observer, I can't seem to tell whether my teen DS is an unhealthy 1, or a 4...Doesn't an unhealthy 1 look like a 4?
Does an unhealthy 1 go to 4?
PS, I don't think this is discussed in Adahan's book.
Could she be a 4 with a 5 wing? 5 can look like 1.
Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 6:23 am Post subject: Re: re: awareness by miriam adahan
Isramom8 wrote:
chani8 wrote:
I don't have any enneagram books now, and I have a question...
How can you tell by observation, if a person is a 1 or a 4?
I know they seem very different, but as an observer, I can't seem to tell whether my teen DS is an unhealthy 1, or a 4...Doesn't an unhealthy 1 look like a 4?
Does an unhealthy 1 go to 4?
PS, I don't think this is discussed in Adahan's book.
Could she be a 4 with a 5 wing? 5 can look like 1.
Yes, I would definitely consider that. Certainly not a 4 with a 3 wing. But how would I know? He could be a 1 with a 9, and still look like a 4 on the surface.
Can any of you tell the difference by short discussions, what number a person is?
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Posted: Sun, Jul 22 2012, 6:26 am Post subject: re: awareness by miriam adahan
4s are outstanding in their trait of always finding meaning in suffering. They are always focused on tragedy, problems, regrets, what might go wrong. etc.
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. Im a four so thats understandable!
(that's so 1)
