Spinoff from the "controlled Crying " Thread

Senior Member Joined: Oct 27 2010 Posts: 219

Here is the issue:

I would really Like to help my 10 month old sleep through the night without my intervention ex rocking,patting

backgroung info. up untill recently he woke up every 2-3 hours each night!

I started Controlled Cio where I dont run to him the first 5-10 minutes by day he usually falls asleep within these minutes by the babysitter but in the midddle of the night is my problem my Dh cant handle the cio he cant understand how I can do it to our child!

he thinks im off my mind! Rolling Eyes

please help!!!!!
I know my baby knowws what I want from him ! I want to stop this routine that he comes in my bed or dh's for half the night! Crying or Very sad

Platinum Member Joined: Apr 12 2010 Posts: 5786

I also hated it and dh also does but there comes a point when you just gotta block it out otherwise he will be there till he is 12!

Make sure he has a nice supper, bottle/feed, bath time, pjs and bed routine and is content before you put him down.
Put him down between 7-8 or when he gets tired and relax him in his crib. Walk out.

Let him cry for up to 15minutes then go in, calm him down and again. I once did this for 1.5 hours! But it worked! Tore me up inside but it helped.

If you or dh can't take the screaming put on music or the radio to block him out. Sometimes I would put it so loud, ds would suddenly get quiet and go to sleep Laughing

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in the middle of the night its harder to let him scream but try for 5mins at a time, close the monitor so you don't hear him, close the doors and try 5mins at a time.

Perhaps leave a water bottle in his crib if he is thirsty you can give him that.

Good luck, its a hard process but you can do it! It really works!
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Senior Member Joined: Oct 27 2010 Posts: 219

no one had a situatuin like this where they felt CIO will be the benifit for the child but dear husband was against??????????????????????????????????????

Yep, my friend bought her dh earplugs!

Also depends how they cry and how much. Shove a pacifier in the babys mouth, usually works. Do NOT take into your bed NO MATTER WHAT. Pat on back, back to sleep. No food in the night, period. Bottle with water, pacifier. When they get bored enough they go back to sleep.

I would refuse to play after 2 AM. They got upset. They would throw bottle at me. They would throw pacifier at me. I would make faces at them and lie down on the other bed (other kids bed, kicked kid on to the rug on the floor) and would go to sleep. They would do anything to wake me up. After a few times they learned I was no fun.

This BTW does NOT work at three months you realize, but ten months to a year they are menschen and get the idea. They are also incredibly manipulative.

This does NOT work with sick kids, teething kids. Don't even try. But when they are ok, that's how they learn.

Also learned that if you make faces at them they make faces back, even in the middle of the night. But eventualy they get the message. They also get good at bopping you on the head in your sleep with a water bottle - my kids had too good aim sometimes!
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"Olam Chessed Yiboneh", Tehilim 89.

The book "No Cry Sleep Solution" saved my life (well more like my kids lives) multiple times. It's not a one size fits all book, she has 20 or so solutions that you mix and match to make something that is workable for you and works for your kid.

Platinum Member Joined: Jun 22 2008 Posts: 6430

I told my husband to go spend the week in a hotel. he called his friend to pick him up just to go hang out with him that night somewhere and by the time the friend came 45 minutes later the kid was sleeping. next night took 20 minutes, the third night was 5. he thanked me afterwards