Khaki to wedding

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My father was at a wedding in Israel where the chatan was wearing shorts and flip flops.

Israelis in general are much more casual. The guys especially. I wouldn't be insulted, so long as he is comfortable! I love dressing up and love being in a gown so if my husband turns up in pjs, as long as he is not embarassed, god bless his cotton socks (or his trousers in this case Smile

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Posted: Tue, Jul 10 2012, 11:09 pm Post subject: Re: khaki to wedding

Posted: Wed, Jul 11 2012, 8:24 am Post subject: re: khaki to wedding

I've seen yeshivish weddings where the men are in dress pants but not suits.
I've seen MO weddings where everyone is dressed to the nines.

It's true that in Israel it's more casual, and in Europe more casual than in NY, etc.
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Posted: Wed, Jul 11 2012, 11:38 am Post subject: re: khaki to wedding

Ballgowns are so weird. I never "got" it, and I've been online for years!

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On the contrary, ballgowns are perfect camouflage for women who have slim torsos, small waists and heavy hips and thighs.

Posted: Wed, Jul 11 2012, 11:48 am Post subject: re: khaki to wedding

Yes. As would, say, a burka! But I still find it weird when one is not a kala. Like I would find it weird to show up in tattered jeans to a business meeting or a 1000 dollar pants suit to a hike.

Posted: Wed, Jul 11 2012, 11:49 am Post subject: re: khaki to wedding

A lot of Israeli guys are just slobs. Others are too casual for words. The big thing among certain circles are pastel or light colored suits that we used to call " puerto rican taste" back in my day...but I'm dating myself. This in certain circles is NOT the country for high fashion...bridal gowns can also be very vulgar... We are a rather vulgar people in general sometimes unfortunately, maybe not in frum circles but in secular or traditional? Spare me....
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Posted: Wed, Jul 11 2012, 12:41 pm Post subject: re: khaki to wedding

I was at a wedding where the bridesmaids wore black pantsuits. NOT nice IMHO.

I've attended dati weddings where I was thoroughly overdressed, and not only because I had on so many clothes.

OTOH, the women we rented gowns from for DD's chassuna was majorly makpid on appearances. She told DD2 that she was "not allowed" to look nicer - or taller - than her sister the kallah (even though she "is" taller), and insisted that she wear shorter heels, and that the kallah accept more hoopskirts than she wanted to, so that she'd stand out from her younger sister. A bit controlling for my taste, but I guess she knew what she was doing, because my girls looked amazing, bli ayin hara.

I wore a gown in a color (if navy is a "color") to the floor, but I think people looked at it as kind of cute - oh, look, a young Ima at her first child's chassuna. I'd fit in better to go with the midcalf black mother-of-the-kallah/chosson outfit that my friends wear.

My boys did not wear sneakers. Even my 3 year old got new Shabbos shoes, although he was taken home by the babysitter early and it was mainly for the pictures. He thought it was Purim altogether.

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I also noticed by the weddings that there is a whole yehi ratzon thing that is said over loudspeaker? Who does that by their weddings and y?

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