Just found out about child molster. Need advice asap

I just found out that a parent of a child in my childs class is a REGISTERED s*x offender. I need to know what my next step should be. I know for a fact the principles are aware of it. Now what is the next step for me as a parent?

since the parent is not teaching your son, you don't have to worry about your child being exposed do immediate danger.

but don't let your kid go to that kids house. if anything have them come to you.

also don't think it's fare for you to keep your kid away from that kid since the child is not at fault. just keep an eye on that relationship.

but no reason that child has to suffer more embarassment. it's not the child's fault.

I would notify the other parents. your son can play with the other kid at school or your house, never at his.

Thanks for your reply but unfortunetly that is not good enough for me. I agree its not the childs fault but just like you are looking out for that child, I am looking out for mine and any other kids in the class.

I am not looking to embarrass this child, obviously not. You cant choose your parents. I feel the parents of the class have a right to know. What if someone else sends their kid to play there? there needs to be a plan.

mummiedearest, what is the best way to do that?

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I would also research what type of relations offense it was. Not all relations offenses are created equally.
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Its bad...very bad.

Is the parent living in the same home as the child? In the same city?
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The father is living at home he was released from jail. I get sick just typing this.

Not good [that the parent is in the home]. You say that the principals are aware. Are they taking any steps to quietly alert other parents so that the children in the class are not put at risk? Better that the warning should come from the admin than from a concerned parent.

how did you find out, btw?

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I wonder if ur kid is in my ds's class cuz we have the same sittuation. the father served time in jail and is now living at home. I know he is not allowed near the school and im pretty sure most parents in the class know whats going on (though when I found out I was furious!!!!) I asked a few ppl what the school's legal obligation is to the parents and was told that they have to follow the law- not allowing him within 100 yards of the school building while school is in session etc but are not required to inform the parents. my ds happens to not be friends w him but im almost positive the mother doesnt invite kids to her house etc.

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What I want to know is what kind of woman lets her convicted s*x offender husband move in after he gets out of jail?
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This post is DEVASTATING.
If you want to get mad at me, don't ignore that I get the concern of every mother here!!
HOWEVER:
As someone already pointed out, this is NOT the child's fault!!
NONE OF US here know the full circumstance. What we DO know, is for whatever reason, the legal system finds this man to NOT be a threat enough that he had been released back into our communities.
We cannot judge the child's mother for taking her husband back.
We have NO IDEA if this man was on drugs at the time of his crime, if he had an untreated mental illness, or anything else for which he may have worked hard during his years in prison to heal, do tshuva, and get help for.
We must embrace this child as he is Hashem's child as much as anyone of us.
My heart bleeds for this kid.
If it was a risk for his classmates, trust me, there would be a law in place (or a school policy) about notifying all parents. To take this lashon hara task upon ourselves is DEVISTATING beyond words.
My Hashem give you all guidance and the strength to do the right this.

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