I want to stand up for myself-- but is it a Chillul Hashem??

I work in a hospital setting and worked very hard for my degree. I consider myself a professional. Yet the director where I work is one of those typ eof people with low sef-esteems who feel spower by stepping on others and asserting her power over them-- all under the guise of "Im just doing my job." Countless have left becasue of her poor raport with the staff. I have been here for 10 yrs and have occasioanlly been privy to her wrath, but of late it has worsened. I so want to stand up for myself!! She has "called me into her office" for a meeting later today. I want to tell her what others feel and how I think her behavior is unprofessional (I.e someone burning up with fever calls in sick and she gives an attittude and won't even inquire as to how he feels upon his return!). She happens to be of the muslim religion. I rly don't want to make a chillul Hashem-- but does that mean I need to sit quiet when being mistreated? I prefer not to leave the job because there are so many other wonderful aspects to it...

You are treading on dangerous territory. It is not in your best interest to be the "spokesperson" for everyone by letting the supervisor know how everyone hates working for her. Deal only with your personal issues and let others fight their own battles. Sounds like you might be a nurse with a horrible supervisor. I work in a hospital too and know the type and really feel for you!
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Ditto what the above poster said. Don't talk about other people's issues, only your own.

And don't make it about feelings or attacking her, make it about what you need to be most effective and efficient. "I would be most effective if you would talk to me about problems in such a such a way etc."
Be specific, and be professional. And document the conversation so you have a record of your version of events if if something comes up that you can give to HR.
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Moderator Joined: Aug 14 2005 Posts: 4699 Location: Ohio

whatever you do, do not call your boss unprofessional.

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Several months ago, I read a very interesting study about women bullies in the workplace. It seems that the kinds of bullying behaviors that girls engage in are actually transferred to the workplace more frequently than bullying behaviors by boys. I guess it makes a mess in the lobby to keep beating up the other boys.

I would definitely agree with the other posters:

* Don't allow yourself to be a spokesperson.
* Don't give her advice on her attitude or general management skills -- no matter how much she needs it.
* Use "I" statements and focus on observable behaviors.
* Use the sandwich technique of presenting negative information.