The Baby Bump - to flaunt or not to?

Platinum Member Joined: Apr 12 2010 Posts: 5799

I had a pyjama tshirt when I was pregnant that said
"kiss me Im pregnant"
I wanted to wear it on purim but I figured my mil would not love me too much after that lol!

mamabear that tshirt is hilarious!
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And btw, I can't stand the phrase Baby Bump. Yuk.

Just a question about tight fitting clothing during pregnancy (for anyone who wears them): How is it not uncomfortable?
During my one pregnancy so far, I lived in a long jumper with different colored shirts underneath it. Anything on my waist and stomach just was too painful and too much pressure on my stomach.

Tzniut, I think tight clothing dont look nice, pregnant or not.

Oh, and I am 32.

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 21 2009 Posts: 3162

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=6055&vid=1&pid=153835&scid=153835002

I bought this shirt two weeks ago and this is basically the tightness I wear now. I'm just starting my ninth month and this is basically how I look (although I'm a bit bigger on top). Just curious how you would define this?

I consider this fitted without being skintight and it makes me look and feel good.

I would define it as tight, sorry.

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Gold Member Joined: Mar 23 2007 Posts: 1877 Location: NY

I'd wear it. It's fitted and I wear fitted clothes. I believe I look tasteful. I posted a tight outfit a page or two ago and there's a difference. But I'm not haredi and perhaps I focus on different areas of halacha. I'm not about to tell you that you belong in a trailer park b/c your top is fitted. Even it was actually skin tight I would never say that. It's not ladylike to point fingers and badmouth others no matter how loose your own outfit is.

I'm off. I have to go parent.

edited by mod to remove snark
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Senior Member Joined: Jan 21 2009 Posts: 176

You women are awesome! I love all the opinions, thanks for sharing. By the way, are 95% of the women on imamother in their 20's and 30's? If there's anyone older out there please share your thought so we can round out the discussion. haha that pun was not intended Smile

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I feel hideously tent-like unless the top is somewhat fitted or tapered via a tie in the back or under the bust. Maybe because I'm so short (4'10) and I carry so "out", but I just need a fitted, tapered look. And FS, I work in a high-class office with 3 other pregnant women in my department; 2 out of those 3 dress with super fitted (and quite low cut, I may add) tops. The substance of your point is true, but unfortunately, in the US, women dress provocatively to work, pregnant or no. In the summer most wear sleeveless (tight) dresses, for example. At any rate, I try to distinguish between "tight" and "fitted" and while I don't cross the line to "tight," I suspect my standards are looser (hahaha) than lots of posters here.

Executive Member Joined: Jun 26 2010 Posts: 364

I think that picture of the striped top is very very tight simply because anything that goes in under the stomach around the pubic area is definitely not tznius in my book.

Well I have only one married daughter and when she was pregnant she wore loose tunic tops that skimmed the bust or were slightly gathered under it and then were loose until the bottom of the shirt, meaning they never went in under the stomach. She is very slim and one could definitely see that she was a very slim girl who was expecting, but never the actual size of her "bump" and yes, I hate that expression as well. In my generation a "bump" was like a "lump" and that was ominous, nothing to be happy about. It's one's abdomen for heaven's sake, not a bump.

As for my daughter in law, I'm trying to remember how she dressed. Mostly in jumpers (pinafores for you English), pretty loose or loose tops, again, never spandex and never going in under the stomach.

My single daughters, one dresses more casual and the other much more sophisticated. Neither wear anything tight or low cut, one is more makpid on loose sleeves (the middle one) not to show the armpit or to ever be formfitting on her arms, the younger one is less makpid as she has really skinny arms but never the skintight kind. Just that the middle likes more peasant blouse style arms if you know what I mean, and those are more tznius without a doubt. All of the girls are stylish, the oldest and the youngest and my daughter in law wear skirts covering the knee of course but never down to the floor, I think my oldest daughter has one peasant skirt that she wore in maternity that went down to her ankles, if I remember correctly but they like skirts that are usually somewhat below the knee but showing lower leg. My middle either dresses like that or more like me, she has a lot of down to the ankle skirts, especially for shabbos, that she wears and likes - saves on the stockings as she says! She's the frugal one!

But they wear the kind of shoes I would never in my life look at. High fashion, sometimes high heel, really bare looking sandals. My youngest doesn't wear socks in the summer and she wears what we used to call thong like shoes here called "na'alei etzba" with something between the toes. My middle wears socks or stockings and my oldest these days wears whatever she can stick on her feet running around after her kids all the time! My daughter in law dresses "new age" all these loose wraps and peasant things but she is really slim and you can see it in whatever she is wearing.

And they all look beautiful - all four of them!
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Gold Member Joined: Jan 03 2011 Posts: 1503

I also thought it was really tight, sorry.
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