The Baby Bump - to flaunt or not to?

Active Poster Joined: Mar 14 2005 Posts: 61

There's a wonderful product called the "belly band" which is essentially a wide. lycra belt that fits over your belly. It's great in that it:
a) provides full coverage between shirt and skirt;
b) allows you to extend the "life" of your non-maternity shirts and skirts, and;
c) hides a protruding belly button.

I've worn it throughout this pregnancy...love it!
http://www.overstock.com/Baby/The-Belly-Button-Maternity-Band/5677681/product.html?cid=123620

The striped top isn't too tight IMO.
Maybe it's a generation thing. My mother HATES tight. To me she dresses 2 sizes too big! she finds anything clinging to the body immodest.
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I think once your used to dressing a certain way, from before u even got pregnant, thast the same way u'll dress when u r pregnant. if you wore body hugging clothing from before thats what you will look for when u r expecting, and the opposite. I wont find my maternity fashion tight or non tzniuzdig but I would say it is fitted nicely and presentable.
my grandmother wore wide house robes while she was pregnant and that was fine then, today thats not what we are expected to wear neither at work or outside. we have to dress presentable and nicely and today society's definition of that is what they are selling in the stores.
we dont see these old fashions out anymore, and they wouldnt interst us even if we did.

Not all women develop a cute "bump". Some of us just gain all over, from cheekbones to fingers and ankles. In that case, the outfit linked as "too loose" is just perfect. In a few weeks it will look tighter anyway, guaranteed.

Gold Member Joined: Nov 16 2010 Posts: 1439

I was taught that tight fitting clothes are not permitted at any time, and a person should be careful especially during pregnancy, because at such a time you don't want to risk the pregnancy with aveiras. Also, that a pregnancy is such a gift, one should not want to flaunt it in a crude manner (with tight clothing) because that is like a slap in the face of the Benefactor who wants us to be tznius.

All that said, there is tailored clothing, or fitted, and then there is snug or tight.

I am 26+ weeks. My body screams I am having a baby, regardless of whether I am wearing a bathing suit or a burqa. I don't gain all over. From behind you can't even tell I'm pregnant. I have a huge belly though, and I cover it with anything that will fit over it.

Platinum Member Joined: Feb 20 2009 Posts: 7672

I think part of the problem is that 2 people can wear the same thing and it looks two different ways. Pregnant bellies are particularly susceptible to this phenomenon. A friend of mine wore these spandex tops when we were expecting at the same time. We are more or less the same size, but carried very differently. Her stomach was sort of flat and wide, without any real ledge. The shirt sat fine on her. I could not wear them, and I tried them all on. Imho when someone carries very round and protruding, they can look very untznius. The spandex look is not flattering at all. Not everything looks the same, or good, or appropriate on everybody.

Also, to those who say that wearing fitted spandexy clothing is not problematic, what if men dressed that way? What if it became stylish for frum men to wear fitted spandexy pants. Still not a problem?

Platinum Member Joined: Feb 20 2009 Posts: 7672

My husband wears fitted pants. Not spandexy- ew, that's just a bad look, fashion wise. He does have some pants with spandex in them, though. It's not a problem at all. Why would it be?