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 Posted: Tue, May 15 2012, 6:53 pm Post subject: re: DD says we mistreated her |
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OP, while I don't know what to advise on the apology in front of a therapist front, I think given that there's been a nearly lifelong pattern of disturbing behavior from your daughter, you have to figure out what caused it to begin in the first place. When a kid acts out to the way your daughter has, I'd be willing to bet it's either because of an undiagnosed mental condition or because some abuse caused her to act out (not necessarily s_____l, any form of abuse). I don't know if those avenues have been explored by her therapist or her doctors, but if they haven't, they might be worthwhile.
I wish you luck and hope that you and your husband are able to find a way to deal with your daughter in a way that is constructive and limits the amount of pain she is causing you. Mostly, I wish that your daughter is able to find peace. Something is clearly troubling her, and to hold on to so much anger is not a healthy thing.
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| Posted: Tue, May 15 2012, 7:20 pm Post subject: Re: re: DD says we mistreated her |
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| amother wrote: | | amother wrote: | OP here. Whats wrong is wrong, I agree, but I think for anyone to judge me not having had a child who for her entire school years I had fear of the phone or cellphone ringing, thinking it might be the school calling, way before the incident, is judging too harshly. I dont think anyone had what we had. We were constantly pleading on her behalf. Throughout years of seeing different psychologists I asked them what am I doing wrong to cause this bad school behavior. After many years of them speaking to my daughter privately for many sessions, where she could have easily communicated my bad treatment of her if it was the case, shes certainly not scared of us and has never been, which never happened, they would all answer that Im not doing anything wrong, its her personality. But I cant prove that to you anonymously.
I know I made a mistake but I cant believe Im defending myself like this.
Thanks to all those who have offered words of encouragement. |
I'm the skeptical amother and I'm sorry for wrongfully judging if you have a child with a behavioral disorder. I am the product of an abusive home and it took me years of therapy to get over it, and what also helped was that my mother changed as well. (What struck me about your post was the hair pulling since my mom used to drag me by my hair.)
But I am truly sorry if it was really just a one time incident and your daughter has serious issues.
I hope your daughter finds her way and you get nachas from her someday. |
I wish people would read the entire opening post before projecting their own experiences on the OP.
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