I am so boringly unopinonated.

Posted: Mon, Apr 30 2012, 9:06 pm Post subject: I am so boringly unopinonated.

Can anyone identify with me?
I am almost always like this, I just have no opinion on topics.
Like I don't take a stance on issues that are being discussed. it's not that I don't want to. It's that I plain and simply just don't have an opinion on the matter. Sometimes I feel it means I am not a thinker, and not deep. Is that what it is?
Every time a discussion/argument/exchange of opinions come up, I just sit and listen/read to all the sides. One opinion will be presented and I'll say "uh huh sounds good". Then the opposing thought will be said and I'll be like " oh yeah that sounds right too". And I end up not having a strong opinion on it. It haappens all the time.

I always knew it but sometimes I feel it more than others. Reading the "haredim should be zionists" thread reminded me again. All these posters with such strong opions and sentiments on the issue. I just sat there reading it thinking "ok what can I contribute? What do I think on the matter? which "side" am I on?" and I just had no clue. It's like my brain doesnt want to think.

ok whatever its hard to describe but I just wonder if anyone knos what I'm talking about.
I'm not good at explaining myself.

thanks for reading!

Moderator Joined: Jun 05 2011 Posts: 3392

Hi!

I'm sure your interesting in other ways, other than expressing your opinion!

I did not contribute to the Chareidim/Zionism thread either, because I don't feel that I fully understand the issues and history sufficiently, especially since I never lived in Israel (unless you count 2 years of sem in Har Nof!).

Now that I think about it, the only topics where I have a strong opinion, are topics I've studied intensely. So my opinion didn't just waft into my brain out of the clear blue.

IF you really want to have an opinion, pick a topic, and study it for a few weeks/months!

Otherwise, enjoy this life that you have, where you don't take offense from others, because most points of view seem to make sense to you!
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I am simply amazed at some posts that go on and on. Take the one @ couples socializing. I skimmed thru it dazed, how could intelligent women occupy their time with such blankety blank. I felt bored to tears.

Anyhow, getting back to you. I imagine the posts you are reading are of little interests to you and you can't be bothered/engaged to take a side.

Why don't you take a topic of interesst to you and start your own thread. Then happily defend your position.

Just a thought!

Im so similar to you, dont worry though, were good in other ways:)))

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Few people can do it all. Most people have their specialties. Look at the number of posts that you have and you'll probably find out that you aren't half as boring as you think you are.

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The up-side is that you are probably an easy-to-get-along-with person in real life.

Maybe you are sensitive and perceptive and are able to envision all sides to an issue. I can relate somewhat, a lot of things I'm undecided about - but there are a few areas in which I feel very strongly. But this site has a lot of intelligent posters, that it can be very intimidating to express an opinion over here.

It is a "type" to be opinionated. I don't chime in to any arguements or take sides on any posts that keep going and going. I have no interest in proving my point and debating. I don't think it has much to do if you are boring.
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More to the life that fed
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It's GOOD to look at things from both sides! It doesn't make you boring or not opinionated.
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I think you underestimate yourself. Why in this very post your message comes thru loud and clear.

And interesting.

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the topics that interest me most, there are like 5-12 pages of stuff and I just have NO interest in reading every1's opinion...

and sometimes I so passionately disagree with some posts, that I just stay away from them, since I have no interest in getting into discussions w/ ppl who just want to argue their point.

I bet you're a good listener, and that your friends value that quality in you. Smile

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Look at it this way: You are open-minded and can see the merit in both sides of an issue. I personally find this to be the sign of an intelligent person.

I have strong opinions on certain subjects and no opinion at all on other subjects.