Baby need to be held a whole day

Posted: Thu, Dec 07 2006, 9:28 am Post subject: baby need to be held a whole day

my baby is 4 months kah and need to be held the whole day- as soon as I put him down he starts screaming! I dont know what to do- I cant get anything done, the only time I can do things is when he naps.
if I need to do s/t realy important ill put him down and let him scream, thinking that he might stop soon, but he doesnt he just screams louder and louder until I pick him up.
any suggestions what to do?

How long has this been going on? Does he scream if someone else holds him? Have you tried to use a sling device? Many people have great success with those. I just learned to do a lot of things one handed!
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Platinum Member Joined: Aug 20 2006 Posts: 5705

I had one just like that. He is over a yr and is still attached. Did you try to get one of those baby wraps, that it holds the baby on you so your hands are free? Also, although it will kill you to hear, it is not bad for the baby to cry for a few min here or there... I'm not saying to leave him/her screaming for ages... but like I didnt want to go to the bathroom bc he'd be shrieking the whole time. Such is life....

Also, when you put the baby down.. try a different position. Back instead of stomach or vice versa, although if you have a shrieker it prob wont help...
Do you give plenty of entertainment while the baby lies down? A mobile, toy, etc.
For me all that worked was the baby wrap, and it didnt last for long since he got very big very quickly....
Hang in there.

Last edited by gold21 on Tue, Dec 12 2006, 3:38 pm; edited 1 time in total

I totally feel for u! my baby was the same way...it was really really REALLY challenging. I couldnt do anything at all without having him scream. couldnt put on makeup, couldnt make supper, couldnt even get dressed in the morning without listening to his crying!! he just wanted to be held 24/7. I even slept holding him with my arms snuggling him up to me ....it was soo crazy. now my son, who is 6 months old K"AH, is much easier! he still loves being held, but he can play by himself too. I think that he is happier now because he has independence and interest in things other than mommy--he crawls around (just started crawling! soo cute!!) chasing toys, sits up and watches mommy and daddy making supper, etc. so this stage will likely soon pass (though it feesl like forever and ever while ur in the situation)! for now u do need some time 4 urself. sometimes its ok for ur baby to cry, as hard as it is to listen to. 10 minutes wont hurt him if u need to take care of something that is difficult to do while balancing a baby--such as eating. (I used to eat cereal and milk while hoding him and sometimes the whole bowl would get tipped over by one of his movements and we would both get all messy and would have to get changed and then I would eat lunch holding him too and that would smear on us too......um dont ask , it was SOOOOOOO hard) have ur hubby hold him in the evenings, even if he prefers u, as my baby did. YOU NEED YOUR SPACE so that u dont become super-overwhelmed and extremely stressed like I was....I wish u hatzlocha rabah and remember that this too shall pass.......HUGS to you. pm me if u want!

Platinum Member Joined: Aug 01 2005 Posts: 16957

try wearing him in a sling.
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Executive Member Joined: Jul 10 2005 Posts: 271

oooh poor you! my baby was also like that, the truth is there is not much you could do, there are small things that can give you a few minutes here and there, a swing (we put my dd in a swing and tied a helium ballon on the swing) that kept her busy for like 30 seconds, and then theres a mobile, which gave me like 20 seconds, basically u just gota wait, it gets soo much easier when they sit up and crawl, ur almost over the hard part, and in the meantime take it easy, u have a good excuse for not doing all the cleaning, and not making the easiest dinners, and hosting a million people, and maybe if u dont work send the baby out once a week, to give urself a break, thats wut I did, but really don't be pressured to get e/t done, ur number one job is taking care of this baby that looves u so much, and e/t else can wait (like a month in a half, by 6 months it gets much easier)

Platinum Member Joined: Jan 01 2006 Posts: 48159

What about a swing? DS was like that and it helped a lot !!!!!!!!!

Sounds just like my son!! I tried all kinds of ideas but one thing really worked, I swaddled my son pretty tightly and he would finally fall asleep. When he was older we realized he had sensory issues and swaddling him was the best thing for him.

if he's 4 months he could be bored... MM is almost that age & also wants to be held aaaaaall the time. most of the time I do things 1 handed but I put im in a exersauser for a bit then I move him to his chair then I move him to the swing... he likes to play for a bit but gets fed up and wants to be held. also try a highchair in the kitchen & strap him up or prop him if he cant hold himself yet so he can see what you're doing, and talk to him the whole time. many times the baby cannot see you and when baby's cant see you they think you're not there so they get scared.

also dont worry about the screaming, its good for his lungs! He'll be a great singer when hes older. with MM it gets scary coz he try's to make himself throw up, but I let him... or it could get worse later.

try new things but be consistent with them. a regulated schedule even though he's young could also calm him down. baths.... and baby soap with lavendar could help Very Happy

keep trying, dont dispare!!

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