Sleeping at our house

Posted: Wed, Mar 28 2012, 12:09 am Post subject: Sleeping at our house

My ds (18) is home from yeshiva (we live OOT) and my dd (16) wants to have her friend sleep over this shabbos. I don't really like to have that happening...I usually tell dd not to bring over friends when ds is home. In this case, the girl can't come over a different week and dd is begging. Do I let? Ds says he doesn't care...
anon-b/c been asking e/1 about this

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One night, seriously?

I think it'll be okay.
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Posted: Wed, Mar 28 2012, 12:37 am Post subject: re: Sleeping at our house

OP here-forgot to say it would be Thursday through sunday

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Oh, hm.

How big is your house/apartment?

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If they are at different parts of the house (upstairs and downstairs etc) then it could be ok but if you only have one floor apartment I wouldn't do it.

Im sure one week in the near future this girl will be able to come over.
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Posted: Wed, Mar 28 2012, 9:43 am Post subject: re: Sleeping at our house

A lot of my friends growing up had older brothers. It was never even a consideration to plan sleepovers around when they would be home.

They ignored us for the most part.

Posted: Wed, Mar 28 2012, 9:51 am Post subject: Re: re: Sleeping at our house

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But clearly the OP is coming from a place where it would be a consideration.

Posted: Wed, Mar 28 2012, 9:13 pm Post subject: re: Sleeping at our house

we have 2 floors-all bedrooms upstairs. its decent size but they're next door to each other unless I switch my other kids for the night...hmmm that's an idea....

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if they are not adjacent bedrooms and the parents bedroom is in the vicinity, I would do it. if we never had sleepovers with brothers home, I would never of had one!

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my sil is my age and we were friends before I married into the family, (dh is 5 years older) I slept over at her house many times and never once spoke to my dh because I was his little sisters friend, we never even spoke until someone suggested we go on a shiddich date (and then I never slept over from dating till marriage)

Posted: Thu, Mar 29 2012, 5:26 pm Post subject: re: Sleeping at our house

Um, what really is the question here? You've got frum kids and are wondering if you can have a guest over. Don't you trust them? Even non-jewish teens wouldn't just decide to cross boundaries with thier sibling's friend, at a family event/overnighter.
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Posted: Thu, Mar 29 2012, 6:40 pm Post subject: re: Sleeping at our house

Look, it really depends on what's done in your circles. We had to go away for Shabbos once, and teenage dd went to a friend's house. Her mother told me that we're lucky her ds (who's 2 years younger than my dd) is away this Shabbos which he rarely is, and otherwise she wouldn't have been able to stay. Imamother has a wide variety of outlooks and haskafas BH - that's the whole beauty of it! You have to do what is accepted in your community so that you'll feel comfortable.