Would you give away your own bedroom for your/his parents?

It's not that my guesstroom is not perfectly fine, it's just a matter of "better" (beds) + connected bathroom. WWYD?

Gold Member Joined: Oct 26 2008 Posts: 1262

I have given my in-laws my bedroom, and I would again if not pregnant or nursing, but I have no guestroom. It's my room or the couch. If I had a nice guest room, I would let them stay there with no guilt.

So where do u sleep when they come?

Gold Member Joined: Oct 26 2008 Posts: 1262

On the couch, that's why I don't do it when I am pregnant or nursing Smile

BTW they would never think to expect it, and insist that they are fine on the couch, but I don't feel right with them on the couch unless I have a real reason to need my room. DH agrees.

Active Poster Joined: Jun 29 2011 Posts: 40

Wow! That's so nice!

the first time my ILs came we gave them my room + master bath and we went to the guest room which also has a bathroom.

the next couple of times I set them up in the guest room and I stayed in my room cause I had a baby in the room next door that could wake them during the night.

I had no problem doing that as long as I had advance notice to take my private things out of the draws/closet.

Posted: Sat, Dec 31 2011, 10:50 pm Post subject:

Would never do it. My bedroom is private. I don't let anyone in it.
It's a special space for dh and I and it would make me very uncomfortable to know someone else was in that space.

Gold Member Joined: Oct 26 2008 Posts: 1262

Thanks!

OP, I think with a guest room there is really no need to leave your room, just make it as comfy for them as you can!

Gold Member Joined: Sep 23 2008 Posts: 1261

We give up our bedroom every single time, mostly because our guest room isn't really comfortable. I think once I'm pg or nursing, though, this will have to change.

Silver Member Joined: Apr 28 2009 Posts: 831

Nope, I would not.

Gold Member Joined: Mar 31 2010 Posts: 2093

I would not give up our room. Even when we did not have a particularly comfortable guest room, I didn't do it, and it never even occurred to me that I should. I think that it probably has to do with the fact that in my home growing up, my parents room was private. Period. Naturally, I now feel the same way about our master bedroom. I would feel extremely uncomfortable with someone else sleeping in my bedroom.

I actually wonder now if my in-laws were insulted when we had them in our home and didn't offer them the most comfortable room (ours). In my in-laws house, their bedroom was always a hefker velt and anyone was allowed to walk in at any time and sprawl themselves across their beds. It always made me uncomfortable, but it was normal for them. Oh well, too late to worry about that now.

In short, I think it's a personal decision.

Gold Member Joined: May 09 2010 Posts: 2125

I wouldn't.
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Silver Member Joined: Aug 22 2007 Posts: 516

never

So I shouldn't start with this idea... I NEVER thought of it, but my neighbour asked me "so...are you giving your bedroom?" I was like WHAT??? Shocked

Gold Member Joined: Apr 27 2010 Posts: 1979

I wouldn't.
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Executive Member Joined: Mar 17 2011 Posts: 390

I wud never do it! its my husbands and my room. whats wrong with letting them sleep in a guest room? even if its less comfortable.

Posted: Sun, Jan 01 2012, 8:16 pm Post subject:

When my granparents came b4 my mom had a guest room, my mom would change mattresses with the boys room beds and put my grandparents there. Because she knew they would never agree to sleep in my parents' room, yet she wanted them to have the comfy beds.

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Platinum Member Joined: Apr 12 2010 Posts: 5799

My parents have never come to stay with me. But right now if they came, my guest room beds are not AT ALL comfortable as mine are, besides mine are nearer the bathroom too so I would give them my room.

The babies room is right next door but I would think they would prefer comfortable beds in a proper room as oppose to old hi-risers in a spare/storage/office/guest room Smile

(hint hint mummy if you come...... :p )
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