Ketubah

Posted: Mon, Mar 28 2005, 5:21 pm Post subject: Ketubah

Want to hear your oppinion. Does anyone of you hang up your ketubah on the wall? The reason for me asking is because someone told me that it is not a good thing to do. You are suppose to keep it hidden where noone can see it, even your husband.
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Posted: Mon, Mar 28 2005, 5:41 pm Post subject:

I had mine on the wall in our bedroom. hubby said acording to minhag chabad they put it away, so now its away.
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Posted: Mon, Mar 28 2005, 6:22 pm Post subject:

The one I have on my wall is a copy of my real one.. the real one is a sole possession of the woman and has to be in her possessions.
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Posted: Mon, Mar 28 2005, 6:35 pm Post subject:

The original should not be hung up and a wife has to know where it is at any perticular time.

Our copy is done by a painter and it's on our wall in our room. Purley decorative only Exclamation

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Have you ever read your kesuba to see what it actually says? Why would I want a copy of a divorce agreement on the wall of my happy home? Especially in my bedroom!

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I think according to minhag chabad that it can't be hung up publically in the house but I don't think it is a prob if it is in the bedroom. I have to look this up as I really want to frame mine and put it in the bedroom.
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Posted: Mon, Mar 28 2005, 7:29 pm Post subject:

Sorry everyone it's not my kesubah thats up but a copy of the tannaim since my husband now reminded me this painter wanted to do something so we gave her this Exclamation

. Hope thats not a problem too late now Exclamation

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Mine is honestly in my dresser hidden away. That is what my kallah teacher suggested.

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Rydys I thought the kesubah has in it all of the things that a husband has to do for his wife and the wife for her husband while they are married. It also has CVS in case they divorce.

Posted: Mon, Mar 28 2005, 10:06 pm Post subject:

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(the kesuba states the sum of money that will paid to a woman in the event of her husband's death or divorce. Since women, in those days, did not own property, this was a revolutionary document that protected the status of women.)

Posted: Sat, Apr 02 2005, 9:25 pm Post subject:

Yes a ketubah is a legal document basically, you can get pretty ones, but why would I want a document up on my wall? If it were in English would you put it up? I have mine in the filling cabinet along with my marriage certificate.
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Motek the whole begining sounds like a contract of what he husband will do for his wife while married and the dowery that he gets. I makes no mention about divorce chas v'shalom.

I will work on your behalf and will honor, sustain, and support you according to the custom of Jewish husbands who faithfully cherish, honor, support, and maintain their wives. And I obligate myself to give you the marriage gift of virgins, two hundred silver zuzim, which belongs to you, and I will also provide your food, clothing, and necessities and will live with you in marital relations according to universal custom." And this maiden, _____, consented and became his wife. The dowry that she brought to him from her father's house, in silver, gold, jewelry, clothes, or furnishings, the groom accepted in the sum of one hundred silver zuzim, and the bridegroom agreed to increase this amount from his own property with the sum of one hundred silver zuzim, making in all two hundred silver zuzim.

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Thanks for clarrifying. If that is the purpose how come it makes no mention of that in the actual document.

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hi
I would love to hang my kesuba up. its a really really nice one!
I havent seen many pple who do have it hanging

I heard you need to put it in a frame with a lock and key
is this true? and whats the whole idea behind it??

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We have ours hanging. I have never seen the lock and key.
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its a legal document. a contract in case of divorce. why would you want to show it off? I dont understand this new mishegas of hanging up prettilly drawn kesubas for the world to stare at. I think its a personal thing to be kept hidden in your drawer.

Posted: Thu, Dec 15 2005, 1:11 pm Post subject:

We have ours hanging, right by the front door. We figure if G-d forbid there's ever a fire or other emergency, we'll remember to grab it on the way out!

Never heard about the lock and key thing, though
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