For how long was the longest simcha you've been to?

I went to a bar mitzva this past motzei shabbos and my first one here. It was called for 9:30pm, started about an hour later and wasn't over until...3:30am Shocked

. I left at 12:30 Wink

. It's so normal for here, but I just can't do it. My dh heard from someone, I don't know if it was a joke or the truth, but at some weddings here, they serve breakfast. Rolling Eyes

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I went to a Rebbishe wedding in EY -- Kabbolas Ponim started around 6:00, chupah around 7:30, the rest went all night, ending with the men davening vasikin!
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Posted: Tue, Aug 24 2010, 5:19 pm Post subject:

A high school friend of mine is the daughter of a rebbe. Her wedding started around 6ish and ended at 5 AM. No wait, it didn't end then, but that was when I left because I had to get home to change for work.

A non-rebbish friend of mine got married on Sunday afternoon. Chupah at 3. I thought I'd be home by 7. I got home at 11 and they hadn't even bensched yet.

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Posted: Tue, Aug 24 2010, 8:03 pm Post subject:

11 is late when it starts at 3 and is non stop. I think many people like to make sunday weddings so they can finish early but still have a long wedding.

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I totally agree with amother about realizing that this night is special for the kallah, chosson, their parents and close family. They waited for this night, and will remember this forever. Why rush things so? Let everybody be happy for the family, and if YOU must go home, then go.

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The wedding of a hassidish friend of mine was called to start at 3 p.m. I should have known that this was going to go on FOREVER when after dinner and dessert, they put out a new buffet of cholent, shnitzle, etc. It didn't end until nearly 4am!!!

I wanted my Sunday wedding over by 8 PM, though that day I wished it was 9! Either way, I knew that people had to work the next day or travel back to OOT, so I wanted to take how they felt into consideration. (How they feel makes me feel guilty or not.)

I also didn't want to have bags on my eyes and be tired cranky the first night with DH!

Posted: Sun, Aug 29 2010, 10:30 am Post subject:

There is such a thing as "too much of a good thing".

Even a chosson and kallah will have "enough" after a while. Also, if the wedding ends w/ breakfast, are the chosson kallah allowed to be alone before nightfall?
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I removed a pointless amother post.
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My chasuneh started at 7 pm and ended at 3:30 a.m.
The only people obligated to stay til the end of the wedding are the parents and siblings of the chosson kallah, the rest can go home....
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Mine was LONG! But I guess it didn't feel that way since it was sort of broken up between Kabalat Panim/Tisch, Ceremony and Reception. And since my parents footed the bill and insisted, we had simcha dancing, and then the Mechitza was removed and we had mixed dancing Rolling Eyes

... Plus benching, and the hour of cocktails while we took pictures after the Chuppah, and then a few of Dh's friends who did fun things with bottles on their heads and fire, speeches, 3 course meal... well it really didn't feel so long...

It was called for 3PM (didn't really start on time. Not my fault!) and we left around 1 and there were still people hanging around! My parents didn't leave till 2:30!!!

Posted: Sun, Jun 05 2011, 8:03 pm Post subject:

I think this takes the cake. My dd is at a bas mitzva that started at 12 in the afternoon and was told it will be over at 9. It's 9 now and I'm waiting for her to come home. A friend is bringing her home Wink

. She said they first have a reception in one part of the hall and then the sit down in another part. What do they think this is, a wedding????

Posted: Sun, Jun 05 2011, 8:07 pm Post subject:

Okay, she's home and it was over 8:45, EIGHT HOURS AND FORTY FIVE MINUTES for a bas mitzva!!!!!!!!!

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HAHA!!! I was going to comment on this thread when I read my own post from a year ago.... lol...