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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 12:22 am    Post subject: This is America! in Hamodia
 
For starters I have to say I LOVE LOVE LOVE this series!!!!.... It's unbelievable and so true to how things were in NY at the turn of the century. I am baffled at the transformation of this frum ehrliche man into a monster who is fighting his children for shemiras shabbos! How sad.

I can't stop feeling awful for poor Charna and her struggles. There's just one thing that really puzzles me. Was it really THAT difficult to find a shomer shabbos chosson in those days??? I mean, R' Yaakov yosef Herman was here already, he managed to marry into a shomer shabbos family, so did all his siblings, and all of his future mechutonim lived in the US by then - there were already several yeshivos (RJJ, RIETS, Eitz Chaim etc). all charna had to do was daven on Shabbos in one of the shomer shabbos minyanim and hook up with some families. I know that shomer shabbos boys were a rarity in those days, but there *were* yeshivos already! There *were* bochurim to be had! Was the problem that she had no dowry to speak of because her father took it all? I"m debating writing a letter to Hamodia, but I don't seem to get around to it, and they publish their letters a month later.

What do you think? and of this serial in general?
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 12:54 am    Post subject:
 
I don't know. There weren't so many people that were willing to give up their job week after week which is often what being shomer shabbos meant in those days. Also, women I think were more able to take in home work (like the "piece work" that the character and her mother took in) or create their own parnasah taking in laundry, sewing, cooking, leaving far more shomer shabbos women than men.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 1:08 am    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Rav Herman had a hard time finding a Shomer Shabbos kallah for himself! Read that chapter again.
Lieutenant Berman also writes that mixed marriages (religious/irreligious)were common due to lack of religious Jews.
My great-grandfather was not a rich man, but offered a child of his $1000 (a lot in those days!) to marry a frumme Yid.
Love the series.
Makes us realize how we cannot judge people then by our standards now. We have no idea what choices we'd make in that situation.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 1:59 am    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
First thing I turn to.
As a child I knew two elderly sisters - wonderful, easygoing, kind, giving and caring people - who had never married because they were only willing to marry someone shomer Shabbos.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 1:26 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
This was earlier in the 1900s than when the Herman children came of age.
And I like how she referenced the Triangle factory without it being too cliched.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 3:53 pm    Post subject: Re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Mama Bear wrote:
I am baffled at the transformation of this frum ehrliche man into a monster who is fighting his children for shemiras shabbos! How sad


Yes I am also finding this hard to understand.

As for why it's so hard for her to find a shoimer shabbos boy, that I can imagine even though there were many shoimer shabbos families, because look at the father working on shabbos! why should a s.s. boy WANT to marry into a family were the father works on shabbos! Can you imagine someone of the Herman calibre marrying into this family?
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 4:00 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Honestly?
Even in places with LOTS of choice, frum people marry girls/boys from non frum homes if THEY are frum.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 4:48 pm    Post subject: Re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
oranges wrote:
Mama Bear wrote:
I am baffled at the transformation of this frum ehrliche man into a monster who is fighting his children for shemiras shabbos! How sad


Yes I am also finding this hard to understand.

As for why it's so hard for her to find a shoimer shabbos boy, that I can imagine even though there were many shoimer shabbos families, because look at the father working on shabbos! why should a s.s. boy WANT to marry into a family were the father works on shabbos! Can you imagine someone of the Herman calibre marrying into this family?


Maybe, maybe not the Hermans, but so many families had the "ud mutzal me'aish", the one or two who hung on. And that heroism would be more than good enough for many.

And for those who don't understand: raise your hand if your family came to the US before the war or after the war.... hm, I thought so. (I'm open to the possibility I'm wrong in this assumption.)
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 5:45 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
I too LOVE this story. The writing style is very inviting and warm. Each week when I read it I stand in awe of my Great Grandparents who lived during that time period and were zocheh to raise a frum and erlich family. When I mentioned the story to my Grandfather who BORN in America he said that Yes it was a very very difficult time for Yiddishkiet...... We who are only 2 or 3 generations removed can not really fathom the mindset of the time period...
Kudos to the author!!
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 5:58 pm    Post subject: Re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
PinkFridge wrote:
oranges wrote:
Mama Bear wrote:
I am baffled at the transformation of this frum ehrliche man into a monster who is fighting his children for shemiras shabbos! How sad


Yes I am also finding this hard to understand.

As for why it's so hard for her to find a shoimer shabbos boy, that I can imagine even though there were many shoimer shabbos families, because look at the father working on shabbos! why should a s.s. boy WANT to marry into a family were the father works on shabbos! Can you imagine someone of the Herman calibre marrying into this family?


Maybe, maybe not the Hermans, but so many families had the "ud mutzal me'aish", the one or two who hung on. And that heroism would be more than good enough for many.

And for those who don't understand: raise your hand if your family came to the US before the war or after the war.... hm, I thought so. (I'm open to the possibility I'm wrong in this assumption.)


My family and dh's family all came over before the war (WWI). The earliest his family came over was the 1830's and mine has been here from 1868 on. My mother's mother's family was always frum but my mother's mother married my grandfather who was not shomer shabbos. He went to a traditional shul with my grandmother and kept kosher because she kept a kosher kitchen. My mother's father's family was not frum. My father's father's family helped found the reconstructionist movement and my father's mother's family was not frum. DH's mother's family was not frum. DH's father's family was frum since they immigrated in 1830 (dh's father's mother's family) and later in the 1800's for the rest of his family.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 6:01 pm    Post subject:
 
I have nothing to add, but Yup, its my first thing I turn to, too! I'm also liking the next serial beside it...Of course I forget the name now, but its pretty new but pretty interesting. In general I find Hamodia's serial stories enjoyable and people are reading it for enjoyment, not for scandals like some other mags.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 7:37 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Yes, I'm also enjoying Windows of (I forget which Windows it's this time). I love the fictional Rusvyaner Rebbe, and the idyllic version of Williamsburg Shia Moseson has conjured. I wish I lived in that alternate-universe of Williamsburg and was a chossid of the fictional Rebbe. I wonder whom he is 'parodying' with that alternative Rav - is it maybe R' Yoel Roth? who knows.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 7:48 pm    Post subject:
 
That's what it sounds like to me.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 9:26 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Henye Meyer is super talented. Exiles of crocodile island was a masterpiece.
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PostPosted: Tue, May 03 2011, 11:59 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
I love love This Is America. I think, in literary content, this is an unbelievable work of art. I thought nothing could come close to it but I'm beginning to like the new Windows story a lot and I'm amazed that it's going into daring territory like fathers not having custody over daughters........
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PostPosted: Wed, May 04 2011, 8:28 pm    Post subject:
 
I love history - and this serial is history written in an excellent way
all the facts without being boring
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PostPosted: Wed, May 04 2011, 8:45 pm    Post subject: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Its amazing when you seen how many pple sacrificed everything to be shomer shabbos. My great grandfather came to the US and settled in NY. Every week he went to look for a new job, as he couldn't go back after missing Shabbos. Eventually he moved to CT and started his own business peddling fruits and vegetables.
When his first wife past away, he returned to Russia in order to marry a frum girl (my great grandmother). It's sad that my grandfather chose not to follow this path after all his father did to remain frum.
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PostPosted: Thu, May 05 2011, 10:21 am    Post subject: Re: re: This is America! in Hamodia
 
Chanie wrote:
Its amazing when you seen how many pple sacrificed everything to be shomer shabbos. My great grandfather came to the US and settled in NY. Every week he went to look for a new job, as he couldn't go back after missing Shabbos. Eventually he moved to CT and started his own business peddling fruits and vegetables.
When his first wife past away, he returned to Russia in order to marry a frum girl (my great grandmother). It's sad that my grandfather chose not to follow this path after all his father did to remain frum.


But you're back!
And even when the parents created an upbeat atmosphere, they were still up against so much: poor availability of good chinuch, lack of support system and chevra for kids, etc. Sad but not inexplicable.
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PostPosted: Wed, May 11 2011, 10:22 am    Post subject:
 
OMG!!!!... I am literally speechless with this week's installment. TEARS IN MY EYES!!!..... and I got my explanation how Tcharna was so removed from the frum community of the Lower East Side: Her father didnt belong to a shul, sadly, so she had no connection. She *could* have joined a shul herself or kept up more with Muhme Perel Golubchik who was obviously part of the community, but I guess they were so busy just working and keeping their head above water... plus, she had no nadan, so it woudl be mpossible to marry a talmid chacham with no nadan. But wow, the installment knocked my socks off!!!!!
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PostPosted: Wed, May 11 2011, 11:49 am    Post subject:
 
Mama Bear wrote:
OMG!!!!... I am literally speechless with this week's installment. TEARS IN MY EYES!!!..... and I got my explanation how Tcharna was so removed from the frum community of the Lower East Side: Her father didnt belong to a shul, sadly, so she had no connection. She *could* have joined a shul herself or kept up more with Muhme Perel Golubchik who was obviously part of the community, but I guess they were so busy just working and keeping their head above water... plus, she had no nadan, so it woudl be mpossible to marry a talmid chacham with no nadan. But wow, the installment knocked my socks off!!!!!


Why, what happened in that installment? I don't often see it, but I really enjoy this serial. I want to know when it comes out as a book.
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