Future classmate's name is sheim H" - WWYD?

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The nickname shouldn't be too different to his real name because the child might find it difficult to have his name changed.

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I would certainly not change classrooms or teachers because of this.

Your kid will not be messed up. Kids adjust and learn. It's fine.

Also, it's nice. He will be blessing his friend a lot, like every time he eats Smile

An easy nickname would be Adon. You could ask your son to call him that and to refer to him that way when he talks to you about him at home. But I would be surprised if the child's mother would agree to having a nickname used by the teacher and the other children, when in her opinion, her child has a perfectly acceptable name.

Tough one. I'd try to call him Donai or something, but hearing it in class in unholy contexts could be grating, I imagine.

My father taught in public school. One student's name was L-rd. So Daddy called him Lard (accenting it only slightly so that it wasn't L-rd but he didn't obviously offend the child). Another option would have been Lawd.
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If the word in question is plural (my masters) why are we addressing G-d that way? Isn't G-d one?

In college I had a classmate named Hashem. I certainly did not have this problem as I never spoke to him, but it was wierd.

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It is uncomfortable, but I'd bet it's only uncomfortable for you not your son. You don't have to hear.

I don't see there's a problem. I think it's appalling to ask a special needs kid to be called something different because another parent is offended by his name.

OP, I honestly think this is being over-machmir on something that is totally irrelevant. Let it go & keep your child in the optimum situation for his needs. Sometimes we can "over-frum" ourselves.

There are worse things to be called: retard, idiot, moron, fool, fatty all spring to mind.

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omg, I feel for you! One day I had to pronounce a client's name: J*sus, I felt terrible saying it! I didn't know what to do! Maybe that's a silver lining, rather have a holy name, than that name in your child's classroom!

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Surely it was pronounced hay-sus.
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Yes as Sequoia pointed out the name J-sus is pronounced Hay-Sus.

I don't know, I agree w/ Bubby. In this situation you are dealing w/ special needs children. Why add more to his plate?
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Are you serious, Sequoia?
I had no idea! Is that how the Spanish speaking folks pronounce it? Thanks! I feel like a moron!

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Did he not correct you? Laughing

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Doesn't 'intention' count for anything anymore? Why are so many people becoming such literalists?
You son won't be 'taking the Lord's name in vain', as they say. He will be saying the name of his classmate. That's it.

He's a little boy, just tell him that some non-Jewish people have names from different languages and that this one, funny enough, is Ad-o-nay...

End of story. No?
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