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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:24 pm
I posted about this on this forum last week - I just have to try again and hope to get more response. I am so nervous for my ds because he is now on day 3 of drinking just a few oz. of ANYTHING and though he is having dirty diapers, his wet diapers have decreased tremendously. I am LOST I do not know what to do - he will not drink milk, water, juice.
He just turned a year and I weaned him off the formula he was on and he had a few good days of drinking milk and then he decided no more - today he took 5 oz. of milk this morning and nothing else. Usually he takes a bottle before bed and I sat to give it to him and he screamed his head off after tasting it and would not drink it.

He also is very picky at mealtimes. Tonight I made him a bowl of chicken soup and a bowl of mashed zuchinni and he tasted both and then cried and cried and pushed the spoon away. So I took out pureed sweet potatoes and he ate that and then half of a yogurt. That was his third yogurt of the day. At lunch I had tried a spinach pattie and he cried and refused it so I had to resort to pureed squash and then he had half a yogurt then too.

I am really ready to punch my hand through a wall. He is frustrating me to no end. He wont eat and wont drink.

He also cries a ton. He cries when I diaper him and he cries when I wipe his hands and face after a meal and when I get him dressed. I need a break. I cannot stand that every time I lay him on the changing table he tries to roll over and cries. What is it to be freaking diapered?!?!?!? Why cant I wipe the food off his face?!?!?! Why wont he eat? Or drink?
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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:31 pm
I also want to mention I had a speech eating therapist here today to evaluate him. He was very upset at her presence which made lunch a disaster on top of it being a disaster. He threw up he was so upset at her being around. She wanted to see me try to give him milk - I took 3 cups - a sippy, a straw and a bottle and he tasted the bottle, refused. He took the sippy - refused. Wouldnt try the straw.

The therapist did not really have much advice for me. She said massage his gums and tongue before a meal to "warm" it up. And puree anything I am eating so he gets a variety of tastes in his diet. I am waiting to see if he will qualify for any therapy with her.

I should mention before I took his formula away he was happy in general.
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twentyfive




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:33 pm
If I would be u id take him to the doc. It could be that something is bothering him and he just doesnt know how to deal with it. Good luck!

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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:34 pm
To me it's a no brainer - Enfamil makes formula for 10-36 month olds. If he was happy with formula, why kill youself? Ask your pediatrician what's going on, could be he is allergic to cow's milk or isn't ready for it.
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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:46 pm
Oh man I am starting to cry.
I guess we could go see our ped but I just feel like I am so in tune with him and outwardly he has zero symptoms of anything being wrong. But I do know tonight he was crying a ton so I felt something was bothering him and I gave him tylenol and he did settle after. But no fever....made me thing its not an infection....maybe teething?

As far as the enfamil - I guess I need to look in to that. Thanks. He was on similac liquid, I want to see if they have a formula for the older kids too. I will call my ped tomorrow to see what they say since our year check up is not for another week and a half.
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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:46 pm
Are some one year olds just not ready for milk? That happens? Do they ever become ready?
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Sweet Valley Gal




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:49 pm
Dont cry. Ur doing great. Its hard to have patience when you feel like you tried everything and child still wont eat. Kids have phases. This week they eat, next week they wont.

I would go to your dr and have him checked.

My guess would be that he is teething (maybe a back tooth) and is in pain so he finds it hard to eat...
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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 7:59 pm
op,

maybe he has hand foot and mouth disease? It is a common virus and makes it painful to eat or drink... and makes them irritable in general. (tiny sores in back of mouth) and usually little bumps on hands and feet.

It is very common and nothing to freak out about. Maybe an explanation.
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obagys




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 8:04 pm
I 2nd the idea of giving him the next stage formula for 12-24 months. I did that with my last baby cause she liked bottles so much. Actually I started it at age 9 months because she was chunky, so nutrition wise she was doing fine, and it is much cheaper!

If your son is having such an adverse reaction to eating, though, something is probably going on, so definitely call your doc and look into it.
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amother


 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 10:13 pm
OP, hugs to you. You are a great mommy for being so in-tune and concerned Smile
Call your pediatrician and find out what's going on - could be teething, infection, virus, allergies - anything! It's so frustrating because your baby can't tell you. But hopefully, your ped can check him out and give you a better answer than any of us can guess here.
Hatzlacha and please report back!
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paprika




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 10:27 pm
My SIL took her baby to a top pediatrician cause the kid refused to eat on a constant basis. The ped said that no baby died yet from hunger without crying once for food. LOL
Her son is now an overweight teenager!
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Laughing Bag!




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Jan 24 2011, 10:51 pm
it seems like youve got a little of a picky eater here or a baby at a no eating phase. however it seems from what you were saying that he does like some things if you give him that and hes satisfied then just wait it out give him watever he does like and maybe its a good idea to go up to the next stage in the formula if this is what he likes and feels lacking in his diet.
good luck I hope you both feel better it isnt an easy thing to deal with fussy babies but they all grow out of it at one point lets hope fast.
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sporty




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 02 2011, 9:14 pm
OP here (decided not to post as amother)
I just wanted to update. The speech eating therapist called me today because she is working on her evaluation of my son. She said there is no question he has a food delay Sad but her numbers were not adding up for him to qualify for therapy from NY State. She is sending a PT over to look at him to make sure we didn't miss anything.
In the week since I posted I essentially gave up. My son wants bottles so I give him bottles. He doesn't want milk but he takes the similac toddler formula (Thanks IMAMOTHER for suggesting it!!!) and he wont eat solids, just his pureed foods. I just couldnt fight him anymore.
Does anyone know of a child who had a food delay and how/when did it resolve itself?
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smile2me




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 5:57 pm
Just my bit, but I think you should have an OT evaluate him, It may be a sensory thing, some sensory kids will not eat mushy but others its the opposite, they dont like the extra stimualtion from the solids, or the way that the cup feels,
From personal experience, dd who has serious sensory issue that bh are slowly resolving, we tried many different cups, she refused to take bottles. you can try the nuby sippy cup, with a soft spout,( more bottle like) with formula.
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cbsmommy




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 6:11 pm
Here's my two cents on the matter:

1) Did you get him FULLY evaluated by a ped? He might have fluid in his middle ear. When DD had that she REFUSED to lie down, eat solids, drink from a sippy, nurse, etc. She just wanted a bottle.

2) DD also was LACTOSE intolerant. When we tried to switch her to milk at 1, she tried it the first 2-3 days, and then REFUSED. At 18 months she now drinks whole milk lactaid, rice milk, almond milk, or coconut milk.

3) Can you see any new teeth coming in? Teething = misery. Try foods that are different temperatures. Frozen veggies were a favorite in our house during teething. Also popsicles, ice cream, and frozen fruit are sometimes soothing. Have you tried cold chicken soup? Cold scrambled eggs and yobaby yogurt are also our 'go-too' foods while teething. Good luck!
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gumdrop




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 6:21 pm
To me it sounds lilke a sensory issue too. Have him evaluated by an OT.

Hatzlocha!

Don't fret, like someone wrote they don't die of hunger so quick we get nervous too quick. Eventualy he'll take something nutritious into his system!
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mikukl




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 6:24 pm
Take him to the dr. could even be reflux.
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sporty




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 10:10 pm
Thanks everyone.
There has been no change - he is now 13 months and still on the pureed foods and bottles of toddler formula.
He was 20 pds at his one year check - below 10th percentile for weight. I just shopped for some spring clothes for him and he is in the same size as his fall/winter clothes.
I heard back from the evaluators and they told me he is not eligible for therapy.
He was not seen by an OT. I am not sure I can request that now but I will try....
I just feel like its up to me now to try to get him to eat and I dont know how. Its so scary when he gags on solids.
He has an ultra-sensitve gag. He is sick now and he keeps choking on his mucous and throwing up. In the past few days he's thrown up 5-6 times after coughing.
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Kayza




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 11:06 pm
amother wrote:
Are some one year olds just not ready for milk? That happens? Do they ever become ready?

Some toddlers can't handle it. And some people have issue with milk all their lives.
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Kayza




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2011, 11:11 pm
Get him evaluated by an OT. If the city won't do it, pay for it. Also, have him thoroughly evaluated by your pediatrician, and talk to him about whether it's appropriate to have him see an pediatric GI or neurological specialist. Meantime, keep giving him the formula and pureed foods. Choose the ones that are nutrient and calorie dense, ie chicken, sweet potato etc. vs squash and the like.
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