Toddler hitting the baby

Posted: Sat, Dec 25 2010, 4:21 pm Post subject: Toddler hitting the baby

Whenever she crawls up to his toys, he screams and tells her to back off (she won't), then he would push her away or hit.
What do I do? Take her away when he starts whining. HE starts whining when she is on the other side of the room, crawling in his direction.
WHat should I say him? He is not that much of a speaker at 2.5. HE speaks, but won't understand a complex idea, I think. I ve read the book How to talk so kids will listen, but I don't think those methods apply to him yet.

Posted: Sat, Dec 25 2010, 10:04 pm Post subject: re: Toddler hitting the baby

FYI kids understand everything IF ONLY you'd speak to them. Yes a 2.5 yr old could understand if you want him to understand.
BTW do you speak to him? ans speak I mean like a person not like a baby? Many ppl make the mistake of thinking their babies and toddlers wont understand and tehrefore dont speak to them or speak to them baby language only those kids often are delayed in their speach.
If I were you I would start talking to the Kid NOW explain to him what you expect...
My dd who is 22m old understands everything because she was spoken to since the day she was born I speak to her as a person of corse I swich to 2-3 work sentenses to make it easier to grasp but fist she heard the real way of talking! And anyone who sees or hears her can see the results BH kah.
Good Luck!

Posted: Sun, Dec 26 2010, 8:42 am Post subject: re: Toddler hitting the baby

OP here

OK, it does help in a long run, but what do I do NOW?????
Do you think he will start understanding complex ideas by next shabbes?

Gold Member Joined: Apr 27 2010 Posts: 1979

ditto what laughingbag said about talking to kids. makes a huge difference.

more short term- can u have him give the baby a different toy to substitute? say shes taking his car. have him take a rattle and give it to her in exchange for the car.

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Posted: Mon, Dec 27 2010, 7:01 am Post subject: re: Toddler hitting the baby

bump
anyone else?

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Talk to your child.

I bet he understands a lot more than you think. My 2.5 year old has understood "complex" ideas (like "If the baby takes your toys, DON'T hit or push. Just call "Mommy!!!" and I will come and help.") for about a year now. He may not always listen, but he understands. Just keep on repeating - "we do NOT push people" and "we do NOT hit people" and give him another way to get her away from his toys. At this point, that way would probably be to call you in to help. As the baby gets bigger, there may be other ways.

There's no "secret technique" to help your child understand not to hit the baby. The technique is to talk to him and teach him what he needs to know.

It will take plenty of repetition, and plenty of patience on your part. But eventually, your child will learn not to hit. And you can also start teaching him how to share one of his toys while he plays with a different one.

One more tip, though - let him sit at the table to play with some of his toys. Or put him in an area she can't get to if it's inevitable that she'll crawl towards the toys. (Behind a couch, behind a baby gate, etc.)

Posted: Mon, Dec 27 2010, 4:41 pm Post subject: re: Toddler hitting the baby

So do you think, time-ou tis too much of a punishment for that?

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Just because he can't express complex ideas it doesn't mean he can't understand them