Shabbos Getaway this weekend, and....

Executive Member Joined: Jan 14 2009 Age: 28 Posts: 291

I have a dilemma. DH and I been married 7 years and we almost never ever do anything "extra" for ourselves. We have 3 kids, K''yh and are extremely hard working people. Do you think that if we are not rich or not even close to it (struggle to make ends meet), that we have a right to go to a hotel getaway type thing for shabbos? It's like $600 and it would definately put us back with bills. We are so stressed out and feel like we have GOT TO run away for a nice relaxing weekend. My mother says its extremely irresponsible being that technically there is no room for it in the budget. It's thursday night and I am torturing myself trying to make the right decision here. Do you feel sometimes you have to just take the risk and do something nice or keep the money for rent, tuition, etc...I really appreciate your time helping me out here. Good shabbos.

Platinum Member Joined: Nov 01 2009 Posts: 8258

Can your parents watch your kids and you have a staycation? I would try something like that.
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Gold Member Joined: Mar 23 2007 Posts: 1877 Location: NY

Won't putting you behind on your bills add to your stress?? Find a few free activities (like a park with nature trails) and go away for the day.
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Platinum Member Joined: Aug 12 2007 Posts: 20503

I think that as long as you have financial stress, adding to it with a SIX HUNDRED DOLLAR getaway won't solve anything. SIX HUNDRED DOLLARS - what percentage of your income is that?
And, I have a secret for you: while you are away, it's all well and good. The second you get home and back into the swing of things, it's as if it never happened, plus you have the bills to pay.
Why can't you do something a lot less financially stressful? Find a log cabin somewhere.... Or send the kids out and order food for yourselves?
Sometimes, it pays to listen to Mom, especially if she has some experience with this type of thing.
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Platinum Member Joined: Aug 12 2007 Posts: 20503

Posted: Fri, Aug 27 2010, 9:01 am Post subject:

I wouldn't do it. That is a lot of money and the vacation won't last, but the bills will.

Send the kids out, buy takeout, light some fancy candles, make it nice, but don't do something you will be regretting and paying for for months.
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Diamond Member Joined: Mar 29 2005 Posts: 3592

I'd try to find a cheaper way to take a small vacation.

While staying home and sending kids out may work for some, it wouldn't work for me and DH. But a cheap motel/hotel/zimmer works great.

Executive Member Joined: Jun 04 2008 Posts: 463

Wouldnt do it either.. although I would really like to. I would rather pay off 2 bills and be relaxed for a month.

Can you go to your parents house for a shabbos or rather go away for a night which would cost you much less?

Diamond Member Joined: Nov 11 2007 Posts: 3792

This Shabbos getaway... were you planning to take the kids along? If so, doesn't sound very relaxing and certainly not worth the money. If you have someone to leave the kids with, then you can just stay home alone for free and have just as, or almost as, relaxing a time for free.

To me it isn't a matter of do you have a RIGHT to do it, but rather, is it smart. I think not.