By golly! Teach your kids!

Posted: Sun, Jul 18 2010, 9:00 pm Post subject: By golly! Teach your kids!

Mothers, please teach your kids:

that when they knock on someone's door, they should actually give the person time to get to the door before banging the door down.

that at certain times, such as Friday afternoons when people sometimes nap, if there's no answer after the first, or max second knock, just. leave. Don't bang the door down.

that after 7-8 pm, you don't ring a bell in some areas and if that's accepted practice in your area, please teach your children.

that if you hear noise within the house, but no one answers the door, give up after 2-3 knocks, or the ring of a bell. Sometimes, for whatever reason, the inhabitants can't, or won't open the door.

Thank you

There. That felt good.
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Some people have time to nap on Friday afternoon?!! I want to meet these people and learn at their feet.

Posted: Sun, Jul 18 2010, 9:09 pm Post subject: Re: By golly! Teach your kids!

Posted: Sun, Jul 18 2010, 9:19 pm Post subject: re: By golly! Teach your kids!

It gets me crazy when kids come to my door and this is how the pattern goes: knock knock knock knock ring ring ring ring knock knock...... all this without pausing a second!!!!! Shocked

but unfortunately the adults around here do it too..... I always tell those kids it takes time to get to the door. And if I decide to ignore the door...................... then god save me Rolling Eyes

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What are these little nudnicks banging down your door for? Do they want to play with your son? Do they need to borrow a cup of sugar for their mother? I've never had this experience...

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There are plenty of things I "taught" my kids that they do the way they please anyway.

Posted: Sun, Jul 18 2010, 10:17 pm Post subject:

And I tell the kids that do this that constant knocking is not acceptable in this house-so they cant have who/what they want-and next time just knock politely-once or twice.
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Whenever possible they should call first, that's always the polite thing to do.

Posted: Sun, Jul 18 2010, 10:25 pm Post subject:

Just want to note-my son has done the calling again and again-I had no idea until the mother told me. Only then did I know to teach him not to do this!!

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My kids learned from a very early age that we don't ask who it is, let alone open the door without my permission. Shabbos morning 11:00 am and we are all in pj's and the knocking has been going on for about an hour already my kids eat their cereal calmly because they've learned what NOT to do from that--the other mommies just haven't gotten around to telling their kiddies to take the hint Rolling Eyes

Another pet peeve--if kids come around collecting and I've opened my door and said wait a minute while I get $, please do not open my storm door and enter the house to peek around. Wait nicely outside.

Gold Member Joined: Oct 06 2005 Posts: 1886

I AGREE!!!!
I have a neighbor thats kids come all day and night, from 8am Sunday morning to 7.15pm erev Shabbos, I KID YOU NOT!!
I know the mother doesn't know half the times they come(large family, she lets them kinda do what they want), and there is only so many times I can tell her something...
I tell them when it isn't a good time, but if I ignore the door ( like lets say I'm in bed Shabbos afternoon and my husbands in backyard with the kids) they can knock for a half hour straight.....No kidding!!!!

Posted: Sun, Jul 18 2010, 10:45 pm Post subject: Re: By golly! Teach your kids!

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I must add to this one:

Parents! Please teach your children telephone manners as well.

One of my great pet peeves is when I answer the phone and I hear a child on the other end ask, "Who's this?" I always answer by saying, "Since you called me, the proper thing to do is identify yourself, first." I seem to stump most kids with my use of the (new?) vocabulary word "identify".

From the time my kids were 3 or 4 years old, I've trained them to say the following when making a phone call, "Hello, Mrs. Ploni, this is Yanky Shmulkowitz. May I please speak with Shloime?"

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I do not allow my kids to collect from others at all and I have told my neighbors that I dont do the "collecting thing" anymore. Period. I dont want my kids going to strangers houses. And if they know them, I dont want them schorring. Therefore, we neighbors dont send our kids to each other anymore. Think about it- Instead of giving 20 kids in the neighborhood 1 dollar each, I can just give my own kid 20 dollars. It is unfortunate that some organizations Im sorry to say "exploit" young kids during the summer - with Jumpathons, Parshathons, Swimathons, etc. all with the promise of a prize that generally holds up for 1 hour. I would rather buy my kids something- I detest this collecting mishigas.