Making 3 Sheva Brachos for Sister, vent, any help appreciate

Posted: Tue, Jan 06 2009, 7:12 pm Post subject:

how much time is there before this wondrous occasion ... Scratching Head

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NUTso but cute ~ things balance out Nervous

Could the chosson and kallah host their own superbowl party? Or maybe their friends or your other siblings could? That is the part that puts it over the top imho.

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Are you concerned about ruining your relationship with them if you tell them straight out that you will only be able to host.............. And they should appreciate you for that !!

People always back out even at the last moment!!!

There should be another way for them to celebrate their happy occasion without imposing such stress on you Surprised

BTW, Mazal tov and it should be BSHAA TOVA UMUTZLACHAS!!!!

When I got married, few people knew me and my chossun. We had three sheva brachos, all made by people we did not know very well. I felt like such a nebach chesed case. I was grateful to those who made for us, but at the same time embarrassed that I didn't really know them and the other people attending, and deeply embarrassed that we didn't have all seven sheva brachos. (Not saying my feelings were right, but that's how I felt. I worried a lot about looking nebby in front of my chossun.)

So, I just wanted to tell you, OP, that you are doing such a wonderful thing for the couple. It sounds like the family situation for both of them is complicated--your parents and the boy's parents are both not stepping up to the plate, so it puts the couple in a potentially awkward and humiliating situation. But by you agreeing to take care of Shabbos and Sunday, you are saving them from that embarrassment. They will feel loved and cared for. Tizki l'mitzvos!!

I know how you feel to be a family situation where you have no choice. I hope $ is not an issue for you. If it is, may I suggest asking your local tomchei shabbos for some help. I am impressed that you are doing this.This will have a possitive impact on your children , especially doing it with a smile on your face.

thanks everyone for your kind words. it hasnt been easy, but I now look at it as a huge mitzva, not a burden.

my grandparents, who wish they can come want to pay for it, they already sent the money. I was gonna just pay out of my own pocket, thank g-d I could. I am not doing simple simple, but not too fancy, ya know.

I ordered a fancy cake and petit fours, and am making a decent amount of food!

its next week, wish me luck!