No money left

Posted: Tue, Dec 25 2007, 2:20 am Post subject: No money left

I generally dont deal with money matters in my family. My husband does. The reason is bc he hasnt finished up degrees etc, and has totally not followed an outline I spoke to him about in terms of types of jobs etc, upping himself in the work world. And I get Puke

any time I deal with the money stuff bc there aint any of it to deal with! Well I just saw a readout from the bank and we have $50 in our account!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Enough said. I feel like ready to go looney! And I know in the end he will want me to ask MY parents for help and I dont want to/ feel I cant

Posted: Tue, Dec 25 2007, 3:05 am Post subject: re: No money left

Sounds to me like you need to change your expectations. Confused

Why do you feel you can tell your husband what to do, but that the money is his responsibility? I think you need to sit down together and talk about a budget that will allow you to buy what you both feel are priorities. What does he want to do in terms of work? Maybe he has other reasons for staying in his current job. Have you asked him? I would think many men would feel very resentful that their wives were telling them (rather than deciding together) what job they should have, while taking no responsibility for the finances. Maybe there are areas of spending you can both cut down on?

B"H, you aren't in debt, so it should be much easier to change the situation.

Posted: Tue, Dec 25 2007, 3:29 am Post subject: re: No money left

I'd answer all the questions but I would give myself away.

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I don't advocate you going out to work if you don't want to, if your husband is willing to shoulder the burden. My personal "thing". However, you DO need to take a better look at your finances, there is no reason for you to be in the dark.
If you have been married for a few years, with a couple of kids, you probably know your husband well enough to know if things will change any time soon. If not, you have to deal with that. If yes.. the the future may be brighter!! you can't change your husband, only yourself....

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Yes, it sounds lilke you hve to be more proactive.

Posted: Tue, Dec 25 2007, 11:06 am Post subject: re: No money left

He could take the midnight shift as a janitor.

Posted: Fri, Jan 04 2008, 12:26 am Post subject: re: No money left

"HE could take a midnight shift as a janitor."

I can't tell if that was serious or not. I don't know. I see so many couples: he works, she stays home, and has a housekeeper and nanny...

No this might not describe you..but I see this nevertheless.

Know what? I want that too. But I will never have that...

Posted: Fri, Jan 04 2008, 11:33 am Post subject: re: No money left

can you together go to a financial counselor who can help you with a monthly budget?

And maybe there's only $50 in the account because he gets paid $5000 tomorrow? Knowing how much money comes in and when and where it goes out to and when is not only helpful, but crucial for both partners in a marriage, in my opinion.