Need help with a card for a nonfrum bar mitzva boy

Gold Member Joined: Mar 23 2005 Posts: 1737

sort of procrastinating here, I need some help ASAP (like we have to drop off the gift today...)
I need some help writing a card for a bar mitzva boy who is not frum. Short and sweet is fine - any suggestions?

what is the gift, as that might help with the wording.......????

just an idea.....
"We want to wish you a warm mazel tov on this big and exciting occasion. May the Torah values always be a part of you and guide you, as you begin your journey through life. Mazel Tov!"

Gold Member Joined: Mar 23 2005 Posts: 1737

we are giving him one of Rabbi Wein's tabletop history books

I'm not sure about the torah values; they are quite assimilated - dad is catholic and mom is jewish

May our rich heritage make you proud to be Jewish. Mazel tov and best wishes.

How's that????????????

Gold Member Joined: Mar 23 2005 Posts: 1737

thanks it sounds good, I'll run it by dh
keep it coming

Gold Member Joined: Mar 23 2005 Posts: 1737

thanks queen, I ended up using a variation of your suggestion (may you always be proud of your Jewish heritage...)

oh I'm glad!
You never know the impact the book might have on him later on in life.... besides the fact that you took the time to care about him and give a gift which I'm sure means something to his parents, if not to him personally too.

Executive Member Joined: Feb 09 2005 Posts: 373

Religious or not should not make a big difference in the wording for this card or others in the future. Just don't make it too "frummy" sounding and use more English words. You can still express happiness and best wishes for his future. The kid himself probably won't care about the card and you'd be surprised how much both the parents understand - even if one isn't Jewish. Afterall, the did give the kid a bar mitza and planned the whole thing.

I think specifically BECAUSE he (and family) were not frum Daisy wanted to write a more thoughtful and specific card than the generic kind we all write oodles and oodles of times.

Executive Member Joined: Feb 09 2005 Posts: 373

You many put more thought into the card but I don't think they will spend more time reading it.

I hear what you are saying queenie however in situations when dealing with non frum people one has to be extra sensitive and go out of ones way more than usual. You never know the effect it will have.

I don't mean that this will cause them to become frum nor is that my intent however If I ONLY create a kiddush Hashem, for that alone I am greatful.