Posted: Tue, May 22 2012, 3:36 pm Post subject: Re: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old gir
yksraya wrote:
MommyZ wrote:
StrongIma wrote:
yksraya wrote:
and they even got one another to molest.
actually, I heard somewhere that other inmates are extremely unkind to such animals, as well.
Child molesters do not fare well in the prison system, even with murderers and other s-xual predators.
they should consider that before they molest kids.
I don't think that most perps consider the consequences before they commit crimes, or if they do they think they will not get caught or punished. On the other hand, some child molestors claim to want to be stopped. _________________ I don't share my thoughts because I think it will change the minds of people who think differently. I share my thoughts to show the people who already think like me that they're not alone.
Posted: Tue, May 22 2012, 5:15 pm Post subject: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old girl
I'm sorry I joined this thread so many pages in. I personally know this girl, and the gehanim she is going through...she is not lying. Her and her family have lost a lot going forward with this story, as do most victims.
Also as most of us are mothers on this board, you should really do your homework. I know someone mentioned this already but people, specifically children do not lie about abuse. The cases that are proven lies don't make it this far because inconsistencies are found when the police or DAs office is investigating. Also why should the victims character come in to play? Does that mean if a person who is dressed proactive gets raped then you would blame her?
And again the most important part of the case (again some people mentioned it already), the girl herself did not report it, her school (licensed) therapist - a mandated reporter did. A mandated reporter must give any information known to them to the police. And because she was a licensed therapist she was taught how to extract information of abuse from a girl who was obviously hurting.
Posted: Tue, May 22 2012, 8:03 pm Post subject: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old girl
Wow . That is indeed very sad. I hope she gets the psychological help she needs to get through this trauma, and I hope that he pays for his deeds if/when he's found guilty. _________________ http://www.autism-parenting.com
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Posted: Tue, May 22 2012, 8:39 pm Post subject: Re: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old gir
RN EMT wrote:
I'm sorry I joined this thread so many pages in. I personally know this girl, and the gehanim she is going through...she is not lying. Her and her family have lost a lot going forward with this story, as do most victims.
Also as most of us are mothers on this board, you should really do your homework. I know someone mentioned this already but people, specifically children do not lie about abuse. The cases that are proven lies don't make it this far because inconsistencies are found when the police or DAs office is investigating. Also why should the victims character come in to play? Does that mean if a person who is dressed proactive gets raped then you would blame her?
And again the most important part of the case (again some people mentioned it already), the girl herself did not report it, her school (licensed) therapist - a mandated reporter did. A mandated reporter must give any information known to them to the police. And because she was a licensed therapist she was taught how to extract information of abuse from a girl who was obviously hurting.
Thank You ..I said this many pages ago too. Also I truly believe there is a possibility that this is not his first accusation, though we will never know for sure, thanxs to our wonderful DA who believes in keeping the names of Perps such as this one under wraps!
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Posted: Tue, May 22 2012, 8:51 pm Post subject: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old girl
I went to the guy for 'therapy'. I was an innocent hurting 13 yr old. the first thing he said to me was 'ill take you on trips, buy you stuff, and make your life bliss'. he dissed my parents really bad. said he'd come pick me up in a limo if I ran away from home. he urged me to come live at his house. he called me by a nickname and told me how pretty I looked. I asked a shaila if I should make a statement against him, and was told that since he never physically touched me, and he's already in trouble I shouldnt. I cant prove that he's a molester, especially since the girl involved is a great liar. I just hope the truth comes out and he gets what he deserves. whatever that is.
Posted: Tue, May 22 2012, 9:43 pm Post subject: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old girl
An absolute must-read from "Joel Engelman's" mother: (notice the fact that Weberman was a "good friend" of the girl's father... who absolutely trusted him.)
He told me that I should never, ever tell anyone
How An Entire Community Of Sheeple (Sheep-People) Were Deceived!
Many of my friends and acquaintances assumed my presence and media outspokenness at the protest against the fundraiser for accused s-xual abuser Nechemia Weberman was due to my bitter experience with my son Yoely’s molestation case. Not exactly wrong but not the whole story either…….
This past Monday, May 14th, I received a call from an unknown woman asking if she could speak with me confidentially. When I assented she said “my daughter was sexually abused by Nechemia Weberman!” I listened in shock as she told me “when my daughter was 15 years old she began to dress differently than our family’s dress code and my husband and I were very worried about what this signified. We were advised to take her to Nechemia Weberman, the chassidishe therapist for “troublesome” girls. We trusted Weberman fully, as he was also my husband’s good friend. During the 2 something years my daughter was in “therapy” with him she did not tell us what went on during almost every session.”
I glanced at the caller ID and realized she was calling from upstate NY. My caller continued – “After my daughter’s wedding, one day she told me, ‘Mommy if you would know what Necehmia Weberman did to me you would kill yourself! He showed me relations videos, he made me do-------to him, he did ------to me, and he told me that I should never, ever tell anyone because no one would believe me as I was known as a “troublemaker” and he was a very Chosheve (prominent) person; I would have no credibility and would only damage my reputation further! He tried to convince me that no one understood me, cared for me or loved me as he did. For sure my parents did not understand me or love me!’
To say the caller took my breath away is an understatement. Listening to the sorrowful tone of her voice was awful. Then she said “in hindsight I now remember that whenever I called him for a progress report or an update on my daughter a strange thing happened. He would actually instigate me against my daughter! I used to wonder why doesn’t he say something like - Don’t worry - we are working with her – there is hope for improvement – instead he would say what an ‘ “Azas Ponim” she was, how she would burn in Gehenim for her behavior!’ I would be so very angry at her and she at me; we were going at each other all the time.”
And then my caller told me her name! This family is not “nobody”, this is a well known, beautifully functional family! Very frum family! She explained to me that because her husband’s livelihood was dependant on the Heimishe public they could not openly expose Weberman – being from the community they knew the backlash would be directed against their daughter and themselves. And because their daughter was happily married they did not want to rock that boat either.
Her story continued: “When the campaign in support of Weberman was started this winter and I saw the signatures of the Rabbonim I couldn’t bear it anymore. I myself went to Rabbi Teitelbaum (R’ Zalmen Leib’s son) and to Rabbi Pollack and told them my story. They were shocked - ‘Oiy, Oiy vie, we didn’t know, we were told he was the victim of a bilbel (libel). However, you should know – we are still Yiddishe kinder and for this Weberman doesn’t have to sit in jail, we will take care of him and he will never do this again, and do not hinder us from protecting him!!!!!’ “
How do we say it? REVICTIMIZING THE VICTIM! In essence they are telling this poor mother – go home, choke your feelings and do not stop us from supporting and helping the man who violated your child! Has there ever been anything as cruel, as pitiless, as UNJEWISH? Is this really us? Don’t we stand for the Emes? For Yoisher? A thought just occurred to me: Al Pi Torah, what was their responsibility after hearing from the mother???
I gently asked her what could I do to help her? Her sorrowful answer: “I don’t know”. Why did she call me now? Because she feels so terribly sick when she sees the campaign for Weberman’s fundraiser.
And so now we come to the protest or rather to the massive PR campaign for Weberman. We Yidden pride ourselves on being Uber Chachomim. No one can pull a fast one on us, no one can sell us the Brooklyn Bridge. So now I have several questions for us.
But before we tackle the questions, I’d like to share some of my experiences at the protest. Several men who recognized me asked me angrily “Why are you here?” “Weberman did something to your son?”
Two ladies walking by angrily told me “It’s all lies, lies”! Sharon Otterman, the NY Times reporter standing nearby asked them “Can you please tell me why you think Weberman is innocent?” Here’s their answer, which is the sum total of what almost everyone asked says: “I know Weberman. He is a wonderful person, very smart, he has a wonderful family, he’s helped so many people. Look at the person who is accusing him – she’s garbage”. This statement of “I know Weberman” flies in the face of the Talmud’s ‘Aiyn Apitrophes L’Aroiyes’, and viciously besmirching the girl is in the same vein as people brainlessly saying “Look at Avrum Reichman and look at Yoely Engelman and whom are you going to believe?”.
Several minutes later, I was introduced to a beautiful young woman from Williamsburg. I did not know who she was then (I do now). She said to me shaking her head sadly, “I know Weberman very, very well. I cannot talk, I’m married. I cried all day today - I wish I were standing with you, but I am not able to.” And with eyes brimming with tears she looked across the street at the outpouring of support for Nechemia Weberman!
Now to the questions:
1- Shouln’t it seem strange to us that UTA, who goes so far as to censor with black magic marker a boy’s face in a first grade girl’s reader, that they employed a Yungerman as a therapist for wayward teenaged girls in his own office on Classon Ave? Not in the school office, no. A man with absolutely no training, no background in psychology. Who supervised him? Who oversaw his cases? Aren’t we very strict with Yichud? Aren’t we scrupulously gender separated at all times?
2- Does anyone bother to inquire into the facts of Weberman’s arrest? Oh we know that shiksa, that chatzifa, that oisvurf, that terrible girl, who made a revenge bilbul on an innocent “Mechanech” who was only trying to help her…..
3- Who is really behind the huge campaign to fund Weberman’s legal fees? We know it must be his family, but can they alone really pull this off without outside help? Who are the outsiders and why are they interested in helping?
Leah*, a student at UTA Bais Rochel School for Girls, was sent to by the school to Weberman for “therapy”. Isn’t it odd that after so many years of his “therapy” the school needed to expel her? Of course no Chassidishe school wanted to accept her. She landed at a girls school in Flatbush; the name of the school is not relevant. The school provided a guidance counselor for some of its students. Leah* was deemed in need of this service. She spoke about her experiences at Weberman’s hands and the guidance counselor, being a mandated reporter called the police. Weberman was arrested. Hello, I’ll say it again – Weberman was arrested because the guidance counselor correctly reported him! Do the posters or the articles in the newspapers tell us that? Of course not! We the sheeple are led to believe the girl was a Moser! That she acted out of revenge to get even with Weberman! Now know this: When an accused molester is arrested the case is owned by the legal system. In other words, Leah* is not the complainant – the government is! The government in this case is the DA. Yes our friend, Charles Hynes, whom the media has shown to be the best ally in the community cover-up of molesters! The DA and his crew will be on Leah’s side! (Oiy Vey!) On Weberman’s side will be the best attorneys money can buy thanks to our misguided generous donations for his defense! Besides the family, guess who else is sooooo invested in defending Weberman? UTA of course! Imagine their headaches right now! UTA sent countless girls to Weberman. They must now make sure none of them ever, ever comes out to point fingers at him. Many of the girls are still below the statute of limitations – they are all potential missiles against UTA! Ha! And here we the sheeple were led to believe the missiles were directed by Leah* against our community!
Yet, in one brilliant fell stroke, the organizers of the fundraiser “Alilas 75” have manipulated our gullible community into a threefold successful campaign:
1) Getting us to believe Weberman is the victim of a vicious ‘Bilbel’!
2) Terrorizing any and all other victims into shame and silence!
3) Parting us from our hard earned money for Weberman’s defense!
Are you starting to feel as if we are living in Sodom? Can’t you just see them laughing all the way to the bank? Can the PR people really make us believe that black is white and white is black? We’ve been called many things – stupid should not be one of them! _________________ The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. ~Mark Twain
Stand with the Survivors -- Our Children are not Hefker (Part II)
by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
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Stand With the Survivors
Our Children are not Hefker (Part II)
By: Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
Sixteen months ago, Project YES conducted a "Stand with the Victim" campaign to give support and chizuk to the family of a young child who was allegedly molested by Meir Dascalowitz. Dascalowitz was charged with nearly 100 felony charges of s-xual abuse, and the family of the victim, which courageously stepped forward to press charges, was being subjected to brutal pressure and threats from community members in an attempt to silence them.
By all accounts, efforts to offer emotional support for the survivor’s family were most productive. The hearing room was packed with many dozens of us – so much so that Dascalowitz’s hearing was moved to the first on the docket in order to clear the courtroom. We presented the family members with over 300 printed emails and blog posts from our readers worldwide, which clearly provided them with an enormous boost of chizuk.
We are once again asking our readers to display a similar show of support for the brave family of the young woman who was allegedly abused by Nechemya Weberman (Kings County Supreme Court Case # 01589-2011) in light of the pressure being directed at them from certain community members who would want the charges dropped.
The hearing will take place in the Kings County Supreme Court, 320 Jay Street, Brooklyn, NY 11201 on Thursday, June 14th at 9:00 a.m.
Weberman is entitled to the presumption of innocence and we must reserve judgment until the conclusion of the judicial process. Nonetheless, research indicates that the overwhelming majority of children who come forward with abuse allegations are telling the truth. Think about it. Why would anyone in their right mind make a claim of being abused if it didn't happen? All the more so because there is unfortunately a stigma attached to the individuals and the families of victims of abuse. Going public and helping to get the perpetrator apprehended in order to protect the lives of other innocent children, often comes at great personal cost to the survivors and their families. With all this in mind, we must stand with them until this is sorted out.
Moreover, in this particular case, there are very troubling facts on the ground clearly challenging to the most unbiased observer. Weberman was acting as a child therapist with no training or degree. By his own admission, having secluded himself with this young lady on numerous occasions over a period of years, he was in clear violation of basic Hilchos Yichud .
Whether this particular individual is innocent or guilty is for the court to decide. We must as a community deal with the very real problem of intimidation and the banning and shunning of the victim. This, in effect, abuses the victim a second time. A prime example of this happened five years ago. A childhood friend asked Project YES to assist a young man in our community who was in terrible shape and addicted to hard drugs. It was immediately evident to me that he had been molested as a young child, and we encouraged him and later his parents to report this to the authorities. During the initial meeting with his parents, they expressed genuine concern and even fear of pursuing this matter, as they were warned that friends of this well-connected perpetrator will harm them or worse. (The warning had been issued to them earlier through back channels.)
During our initial meeting with the Queens District Attorney, I mentioned the “intimidation factor” and explained to them how these things work – the 3:00 a.m. anonymous phone calls, pizza deliveries in the middle of the night, on and on. We were assured that we would have the full resources and protection of the DA’s office and the police department, and they most certainly “walked the walk” by supporting the family every step of the way. The man was arrested, and during his first appearance in court, the judge practically yelled at the molester in court and warned him that the slightest act of intimidation against the victim’s family would be assumed to have come from him. He was told by the judge in no uncertain terms that his bail will be revoked and charges would be added if there were any acts of bullying or threats directed at the victim’s family. (For more details, click here and here.)We ought to be advocating that this level of support and protection be offered to these Brooklyn victims who are coming forward as well.
With all this in mind, we respectfully ask our readers to:
1) Post a comment of support below in the thread following this column or send an email to yhprojectyes@gmail.com. Please list your real name and the city where you live, to send a clear message to those conducting the terror campaign against the victim’s family that we are not intimidated by them. These comments will be printed and presented to the family at the hearing.
2) Please try and attend the hearing in person if at all possible. It is extraordinarily important that we have a huge turnout supporting the victim and her family. We need hundreds of people there, to send a loud and clear message to all parties that Our Children are not Hefker.
3) Respectfully email the Brooklyn DA’s office (SCHMETJ@brooklynda.org is the email address of Jerry Schmetterer, Director of Public Information at the DA’s office) and express your support for 24/7 protection of the victim’s family and the robust investigation and prosecution of the folks who are intimidating them. Additionally, express your support for a swift resolution of the criminal charges, as the stalling and delay just allow those pressuring the victims more time for intimidation. (Nechemya Weberman was arrested on February 23, 2011.)
Kindly take a moment to review the lines of last year’s post here for a more detailed explanation regarding the moral and practical need to stand with the victim.
Thank you for your assistance and support of our efforts on behalf of abuse survivors.
Yakov Horowitz
P.S. Over the past few years, as a public service, Project YES has been conducting teleconference calls in the month of June designed to help parents effectively speak to their children about personal space and safety before sending them off to summer camp. This year’s teleconference call will take place Thursday, June 7th at 9:30 p.m. EDT. To join, kindly call in to (209) 647-1600 Participant Code: 827269
(Here is a link to a child safety teleconference call we ran in 2011, and a recording of this 2012 session will be available on our website www.kosherjewishparenting.com or by dialing (209) 647-1699 Participant Code: 827269 after the call is concluded. )
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Posted: Fri, Sep 28 2012, 6:08 pm Post subject: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old girl
This just came in:
What Went Terribly Wrong
Nechemia Weberman’s Trial on October 30th: Come to the Hearing – and Understand What Went Terribly Wrong
By: Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
Dear Readers: During these days leading up to Succos, our z’man simchaseinu, (time of collective joy), one might consider it inappropriate to write about topics that are far from joyous. However, having spent Rosh Hashana at an amazing and inspiring Madraigos retreat where there were more than a few abuse survivors in attendance, I feel compelled to release these lines at this time to fulfill a promise I made then to let the survivors among us know that they are not standing alone, and with the hope that it will result in safer practices among those in our community who are seeing help for their children. These lines are dedicated in memory of Yoni Polansky a“h (1994-2012).
Best wishes for a Gutten Shabbos and a Gutten Yom Tov.
Yakov
After many delays and much legal wrangling, Nechemia Weberman will finally stand trial in Brooklyn Criminal Court on October 30th for allegedly abusing a young girl in the Williamsburg community over a period of three years -- beginning when she was 12 years old.
Mr. Weberman is entitled to his day in court and the presumption of innocence until proven guilty.
Having said that, quoting the Halachic terms employed in the Teshuva of Rav Elyashiv zt”l, there is clearly far more than “raglayim l’davar” (credible suspicion) in this case. In fact, all indications point to the inescapable conclusion that something is very, very wrong here.
What Parents Need to Know
One of the most important things frum parents – especially those in the “heimish” community – ought to be developing is a deep understanding of the norms and accepted practice in the mental health profession. Gaining this would allow devoted and caring parents the ability to obtain suitable professional help for their children who need it, and avoid the trauma associated with following the recommendations made by untrained, well-meaning folks (unfortunately, an all too frequent occurrence, one which sometimes creates horrific results).
Moreover, it would help undo the denial and cognitive dissonance of those who defend Weberman -- by pointing out how disturbing were the circumstances of his "treatment" of the young girls referred to him.
Don’t Ignore the Warning Signs
Think of it this way. Wouldn't alarm bells go off in your mind if a doctor performed an invasive procedure without using latex gloves or if he/she picked up a used syringe to give you an injection? Wouldn't you think it strange if you were a single mother and were requested to meet with your son’s Rebbe or principal at 9 p.m. one evening in a deserted Yeshiva building to discuss your son's progress?
What Went Wrong
Well, those of us familiar with the do's and don'ts of accepted practice in the mental health profession saw similar blaring warning lights in our minds, as should you when the facts were made public that Weberman:
1) Had unregulated access to many girls over a number of years in his inappropriate and illegal role as their unlicensed "therapist."
2) Had these young girls referred to him for counseling by very Chassidish schools, whose general level of gender separation far exceeds those of the typical "Bais Yakov" (and it would be exceedingly rare for non-Chassidish girls’ schools to regularly refer their Talmidos to a male therapist)
3) Engaged in private, unsupervised counseling sessions with young girls -- often in an office/apartment that contained a working bedroom -- violating all norms of Yichud and Tzniyus.
In addition to all these disturbing facts, it has become clear that these serious allegations are in fact not isolated ones. In fact, since Mr. Weberman's arrest, I was personally contacted by immediate family members of four additional alleged victims of his who are afraid to come forward, and those of us close to the community have heard similar reports from others as well.
All the victims – none of whom know each other and all of whom are terrified to go to the authorities because of fear of backlash from the community – report striking similarities in the MO of Weberman (his manner of working), fueling suspicion that we are only seeing the tip of the iceberg.
What is most chilling is that each and every one of his victims who came to us is currently married; meaning that 1) this has been going on for a very long time, 2) if there are current victims who are single, they are even more terrified than the married women of coming forward, for fear that going public will ruin their chances of doing a decent shidduch.
Weberman’s case may very well be our community’s most important abuse trial during our lifetimes. It is imperative that we have a huge turnout in support of this courageous young lady who, may she be gezunt and ge’bentched, is determined to see this through to the end so others won't suffer like she did. Unbearable pressure is being brought to bear against her and her family to drop the case, which is one of the reasons that a show of support is so important.
Now That You Know
Those of us who work with abuse survivors respectfully implore you to please, please stand with this victim on October 30th, and with the other silent and silenced victims who are watching this case unfold very carefully, and with all survivors of abuse and molestation.
Please pass this on to your friends and family members and I hope to see you at the trial, heeding the timeless charge of Yeshayahu (Isaiah) (1:16) to “Seek justice [and] strengthen the victim.”
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Posted: Fri, Sep 28 2012, 6:09 pm Post subject: re: Nechemya Weberman charged with abusing 12 yr old girl
This just came in:
What Went Terribly Wrong
Nechemia Weberman’s Trial on October 30th: Come to the Hearing – and Understand What Went Terribly Wrong
By: Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
Dear Readers: During these days leading up to Succos, our z’man simchaseinu, (time of collective joy), one might consider it inappropriate to write about topics that are far from joyous. However, having spent Rosh Hashana at an amazing and inspiring Madraigos retreat where there were more than a few abuse survivors in attendance, I feel compelled to release these lines at this time to fulfill a promise I made then to let the survivors among us know that they are not standing alone, and with the hope that it will result in safer practices among those in our community who are seeing help for their children. These lines are dedicated in memory of Yoni Polansky a“h (1994-2012).
Best wishes for a Gutten Shabbos and a Gutten Yom Tov.
Yakov
After many delays and much legal wrangling, Nechemia Weberman will finally stand trial in Brooklyn Criminal Court on October 30th for allegedly abusing a young girl in the Williamsburg community over a period of three years -- beginning when she was 12 years old.
Mr. Weberman is entitled to his day in court and the presumption of innocence until proven guilty.
Having said that, quoting the Halachic terms employed in the Teshuva of Rav Elyashiv zt”l, there is clearly far more than “raglayim l’davar” (credible suspicion) in this case. In fact, all indications point to the inescapable conclusion that something is very, very wrong here.
What Parents Need to Know
One of the most important things frum parents – especially those in the “heimish” community – ought to be developing is a deep understanding of the norms and accepted practice in the mental health profession. Gaining this would allow devoted and caring parents the ability to obtain suitable professional help for their children who need it, and avoid the trauma associated with following the recommendations made by untrained, well-meaning folks (unfortunately, an all too frequent occurrence, one which sometimes creates horrific results).
Moreover, it would help undo the denial and cognitive dissonance of those who defend Weberman -- by pointing out how disturbing were the circumstances of his "treatment" of the young girls referred to him.
Don’t Ignore the Warning Signs
Think of it this way. Wouldn't alarm bells go off in your mind if a doctor performed an invasive procedure without using latex gloves or if he/she picked up a used syringe to give you an injection? Wouldn't you think it strange if you were a single mother and were requested to meet with your son’s Rebbe or principal at 9 p.m. one evening in a deserted Yeshiva building to discuss your son's progress?
What Went Wrong
Well, those of us familiar with the do's and don'ts of accepted practice in the mental health profession saw similar blaring warning lights in our minds, as should you when the facts were made public that Weberman:
1) Had unregulated access to many girls over a number of years in his inappropriate and illegal role as their unlicensed "therapist."
2) Had these young girls referred to him for counseling by very Chassidish schools, whose general level of gender separation far exceeds those of the typical "Bais Yakov" (and it would be exceedingly rare for non-Chassidish girls’ schools to regularly refer their Talmidos to a male therapist)
3) Engaged in private, unsupervised counseling sessions with young girls -- often in an office/apartment that contained a working bedroom -- violating all norms of Yichud and Tzniyus.
In addition to all these disturbing facts, it has become clear that these serious allegations are in fact not isolated ones. In fact, since Mr. Weberman's arrest, I was personally contacted by immediate family members of four additional alleged victims of his who are afraid to come forward, and those of us close to the community have heard similar reports from others as well.
All the victims – none of whom know each other and all of whom are terrified to go to the authorities because of fear of backlash from the community – report striking similarities in the MO of Weberman (his manner of working), fueling suspicion that we are only seeing the tip of the iceberg.
What is most chilling is that each and every one of his victims who came to us is currently married; meaning that 1) this has been going on for a very long time, 2) if there are current victims who are single, they are even more terrified than the married women of coming forward, for fear that going public will ruin their chances of doing a decent shidduch.
Weberman’s case may very well be our community’s most important abuse trial during our lifetimes. It is imperative that we have a huge turnout in support of this courageous young lady who, may she be gezunt and ge’bentched, is determined to see this through to the end so others won't suffer like she did. Unbearable pressure is being brought to bear against her and her family to drop the case, which is one of the reasons that a show of support is so important.
Now That You Know
Those of us who work with abuse survivors respectfully implore you to please, please stand with this victim on October 30th, and with the other silent and silenced victims who are watching this case unfold very carefully, and with all survivors of abuse and molestation.
Please pass this on to your friends and family members and I hope to see you at the trial, heeding the timeless charge of Yeshayahu (Isaiah) (1:16) to “Seek justice [and] strengthen the victim.”
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. That is indeed very sad. I hope she gets the psychological help she needs to get through this trauma, and I hope that he pays for his deeds if/when he's found guilty.
