Baruch HaShem-publicly thanking HaShem!

Really? I sat near my kids until they were something like 5 years old, and even then, waited until they would tell me, "Mommy, you can go now."

Not normal?? Perhaps...my biological 'baby' did co-sleep in my bed until he was 3.

Well, I guess I'll take my not normal self out of this discussion.

And OP, I'm glad to hear your "baby" is safe.

Senior Member Joined: Apr 28 2010 Posts: 243

I would like thank Hashem publicly too! I would like to thank him for giving me children I can send to get tissues on their own (and yes, my current 3 yr old is as you put it Chani, rambunctious) guess what, he goes to the bathroom by himself too- I am grateful he has those skills, and I thank Hashem for that every day. I also thank Hashem that I can put my 10 month old is his crib with a kiss and close the door behind me and know that he will put himself to sleep, and also thankful my older 2 do the same thing, does my 3 yr old jump on his bed and fall off- its probably a daily occurrence- whether I'm in the room with him or not- and sometimes he gets bumps and bruises- But I thank Hsahem I have a child who can jump.

Chani, I think we would all agree, we want to keep our children as safe as possible, but it is healthy to let them grow up-

I'm not talking about your foster children, I admire that you can do that, and I can accept that it may be different when they are not "your" kids as you say.

but why on earth would you come on here and start implying that the OP was reckless with her child?

OP- looks like your DD was very lucky in that bathroom today! you are right to thank hashem! may he continue to look after all our little ones!

LondonIma, I would let a baby in a crib go to sleep on their own as well. But 3 year olds sleep in a bed and need supervision esp at night when they are tired and clumsy and can't be expected to obey. Plus they don't fall asleep nearly as easily as a baby, and are actually more needy.

As far as OP, the cabinet not assembled but sitting behind the toilet seemed a bit risky to me, and the blood all over the place was a bit upsetting to read. In answer to your quesiont, that is why I suggested more boundaries. I guess I was just upset by it all. We can't rely on miracles.

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And just btw how do you know it was because OPs daughter was wild in the bathroom that it fell on her?
Maybe if op or her husband would have gone it it would have fallen on them, maybe it was on its last hinge?!
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hijacking the post a little bit- alwaysgrateful- your comment about toilet training for years really hit me hard and I could use your advice. My son turned 3 right before pesach- he has been toilet trained for about 6-7 months and has been going independently for a good 4-5, BUT... since he's started wearing tzitzis its like going back to basics- any one have any advice for this? How can I get him to move his strings out of the way properly- he isnt going on them thankfully, but because we told him how important it was not to get them messy, he's always asking one of us to take him- which of course we do.. but this boy could pish for britain, and its driving me CRAZy!!!!!

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partially in Chani's defence my 3yo wants us by her till she falls asleep, we usually comply, but when we can't we tell her so & though she might protest she usually falls asleep on her own.

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In fact the few times I had to have dd in the same room as me (hotel) it took forever for her to sleep.
I personally don't even envision the thing, staying there and doing nothing, going slowly crazy of boredom, while my kid is obviously stimulated by an audience... I don't know, quality time matters, not long hours like that. What

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