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I am pregnant. My almost 15 month old daughter is still nursing and being rocked to sleep. The problem isnt so much when I'm actually getting her to sleep. The problem is that she's been waking up 3-4 times during the night, nursing for at least 20 minute sessions.
I cannot handle it anymore. I'm starting to get serious nausea, and exhaustion.
I know that I want to let her cry it out, but not exactly Ferber style. I would like to try and let my husband be in the room with her and help her settle down.
My questions are
1- has anyone tried that?
2- if she learns to fall asleep on her own will that get her to stop waking up and needing to nurse back to sleep each time?
3- How do I know if she's hungry/ thirsty?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, as I am at my wits end.
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| Posted: Sat, Nov 04 2006, 9:59 pm Post subject: re: Sleep advice needed asap |
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A close friend of mine and a similar situation. The thing that solved it was sending the dh in instead of her. The child knew food wasn't coming from him, and would settle for other forms of comfort.
I think at 15 months, if the child is a normal size, and eating/drinking otherwise in the day, that taking them one by one off of a feeding at night will not be starving them. They won't like it bc they are used to eating then, but they eventually get used to when they need to eat, and hopefully at least get down to 1-2 (if not zero) wakings per night instead of 3-4. The Sears parenting books are the totally opposite end of the spectrum from Furber, but they even say this is totally ok, and give methods to comfort the child without "giving in".
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| Posted: Sat, Nov 04 2006, 10:05 pm Post subject: re: Sleep advice needed asap |
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Definitely let Dad take care of it.
Do you want to stop nursing her completely or just at night? She also needs to learn to fall asleep without rocking.
You can put her in her crib and pat her on the back slowly, fading down into just holding her back and dthen eventually she'll be able to fall asleep without touch at all.
Just keep reminding her that you love her.
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when my son was 10 months old and waking up every 3 hours to nurse, I had to let him cry it out at night. I was pregnant with my 2nd at that point, and it was just too exhausting.
I tried going in once in a while to reassure him, but it just made him angrier. So I just left him alone.  It's hard, but after a few nights he was a well-rested and happy baby and I was a well-rested, happy mommy.
good luck! 
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| BrachaVHatzlocha wrote: | when my son was 10 months old and waking up every 3 hours to nurse, I had to let him cry it out at night. I was pregnant with my 2nd at that point, and it was just too exhausting.
I tried going in once in a while to reassure him, but it just made him angrier. So I just left him alone. It's hard, but after a few nights he was a well-rested and happy baby and I was a well-rested, happy mommy.
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When you let him cry it out, did that prevent him from waking up during the night, or did you have to do something else?
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| Posted: Sun, Nov 05 2006, 8:30 pm Post subject: Re: re: Sleep advice needed asap |
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| su7kids wrote: | Definitely let Dad take care of it.
Do you want to stop nursing her completely or just at night? She also needs to learn to fall asleep without rocking.
You can put her in her crib and pat her on the back slowly, fading down into just holding her back and dthen eventually she'll be able to fall asleep without touch at all.
Just keep reminding her that you love her. |
I want to stop completely, I just want to do it gradually. I'm so exhausted though and really not feeling well these days, I feel like this whole thing is a nightmare.
I really feel bad for my dd, but I need some sleep...
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| Posted: Sun, Nov 05 2006, 9:24 pm Post subject: re: Sleep advice needed asap |
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I had the same situation with my son.
I found that when I stopped nursing him to sleep, he slept better at night. I created a bed time routine, did it for a week, then just left out the nursing part.
For the middle of the night, I did an altered Ferber meathod. Instead of going up 5, 10, 15 minutes, I stayed at five for a while, went up, but never went past 15.
It is soooooooooooooooo hard to do, but it is a present to your daughter.
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| Posted: Mon, Nov 06 2006, 9:17 pm Post subject: re: Sleep advice needed asap |
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| Mammy, would you mind if I pm'd you for details- I'm so desperate...
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| No problem... I'll look out for it.
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| amother wrote: |
When you let him cry it out, did that prevent him from waking up during the night, or did you have to do something else? |
I had to let him cry it out during the night, too, as well as going to sleep.
But once he learned how to fall asleep, it was a world of difference.
It only took me a few nights with him.
With my 2nd, who's almost 11 months now, I had it harder. But then again, I tried younger...he learned to sleep through the night, but if I'd leave him in my room, he'd start waking up again. Now (at least for now...) B"H he sleeps and wakes up about 6 AM to nurse. Ok, well, he's an early bird.
uh oh...did I just hear him fuss from the other room?? 
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