Help! My toddler's biting me. What to do?

Silver Member Joined: Sep 14 2005 Posts: 677

What should I do? She just doesn't understand when I tell her not to bite me. She keeps on doing it. Any ideas?

Posted: Thu, Oct 26 2006, 11:37 am Post subject:

if she's bitting you while she's nursing then either stop nursing altogether, or at the very least stop nursing if she bites you after the first warning.

If she's stam biting you, soap in the mouth is a great deterent.
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Executive Member Joined: Jun 22 2006 Posts: 265

My toddler does this too. I can't think of a solution. I am not nursing and he laughs when he bites. He bit another kid yesterday. If I were the other kids mom, I wouldn't be too happy, but how do you teach them?

Most kids go through a biting stage. At least one of mine did. A little bit of dishwashing liquid on my finger scrubbed into their mouth, get it bubbly and it was a short phase.

What about a sharp, and almost frightening "NO" every time they do it?
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Active Poster Joined: Oct 23 2006 Posts: 87

Check out this website:

http://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006/03/qa_aggressive_2.html

My daughter never had a biting stage(plenty of other stages, but not that one!) , but I came across that, and thought it seemed like sound advice.

Soap in the mouth seems a little harsh to me, for what's normal behavior. But maybe I spoil my kids.

Executive Member Joined: May 04 2005 Posts: 451

no, I dont think thats spoiling, id never do it either. I read an article that said many kids bite and think its funny just because of the reaction that they see happens after they bite. if this might be the case they say to deal with the one who is hurt first rather than the child who bit because they will see if their doing it for a big reaction or attention, not working. id google kids biting and read what they have thats what I did.

my son actually did bite me once and another kid-hes 2-
I had a "serious" talk with him and explained to him and biting gives big booboos and hurts. I guess he got it because he stopped doing it. alot of kids dont know why people freak out, they dont know that it hurts, we have to teach them it hurts definitely NOT by biting back whoch some people will tell you because thats doing the same bad behavior as the kid but rather explaining and removing thjem from the situation they are biting. if out of frustration especially- try and remove when they get frustrated and distract them before they get so frustrated that it leads to biting. either way- good luck!

Silver Member Joined: Sep 14 2005 Posts: 677

No, she's not biting me while nursing. She actually doesn't do that Very Happy

She just walks over to me and bites my legs.
Saying "no" to her even very strongly doesn't help. She starts laughing. I didn't know what to do b/4 when she kept on doing it. I finally gave a small patch Crying or Very sad

(it hurt a little but wasn't too hard) on her face and she stopped for a while. Now she started again. Confused

Say, "Ouch Mad

! You bit me and that hurt! You are not allowed to bite or to hurt people!" saying just "NO" gives the child a good feeling that she got some reaction from you Twisted Evil

.

If the behavior continues, you can take her aside one day and after explaining to her calmly that biting hurts people Sad

, gently bite into her arm (not so hard that it hurts too much Shocked

!) and tell her that just as it hurts her, it hurts Mommy when she bites you.

I did that once with a toddler and he never bit me again Rolling Eyes

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I am in shock! I cant believe that ppl would bite their own child to teach them not to bite. or hit because they bit. that seems way hypercritical to me! there must be other ways.

Silver Member Joined: Sep 14 2005 Posts: 677

hey! thats funny!! I went through this like 3 months ago... when my daughter was 15 months. SHE WOULD OUT OF NOWHERE COME AND BITE MY LEGS!!!
it wouldnt hlp to tell her no... she would laugh... I tried puting here in a corner... saying that if she bites she cant stay next to Mommy, etc... nothing seemed to help... I guess time is the only "cure"... its just a stage...a new thing that she discovered... maybe she is teething, im not sure... but with the time she finds some other interesting things to do.

Good luck!!
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