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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:21 am    Post subject: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora, see my post earlier on page five.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:24 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
bakingmama wrote:
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From what I understood the takonos were put in place in this kehilla because at the time, the issue of inui hager when weighted against that of bringing in someone to the kehilla who would not keep yiddishkeit correctly or not be converted correctly, was negligible. Meaning in the first place the whole idea was that Syrians were to marry syrians! Period. They weren't the only kehilla like this, I'm familiar with the mashad persian community which is just the opposite, anusim, marranos, and they only married mashadis for generations!

The problem is today with our heightened sense of PC when it comes to so many things. Syrians who want to marry out of the takono, where their love for their future spouse is greater than their respect for communal takonos, CAN of course marry out technically of the community and marry their giores or ger by a different and in a different kehilla. They just can't stay in the syrian kehilla. It's just the way things are.

How often does the problem come up in this kehilla in practice.


Um, yeah...lol we have less than 1% intermarriage because of the ban, syrians marrying only syrians HAHA very cute.. Not really, but even if they did, then we would not have any guy bringing home an italian girl from Lincloln high school to marry. That's what they faced in those days. As to why we keep it today, after so many years, I can not answer, but I can tell you that it does keep people in check. The community is not totally frum, we are a mixed bag, so it does pertain to many people today as well.


I'm not sure how effective this is today. I know several couples where the guy was Syrian, the girl converted and they just went to the local Orthodox Beis Din without worrying so much about being accepted by the Syrian community. As one said "I go to Young Israel. Who cares if the beit keneset in Flatbush won't have me?"


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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:25 am    Post subject: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:25 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
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This gets into the question of what conversions are what, which I am strenuously trying to avoid (hint: giyur is a very simple area of law that people keep trying to make complicated).

But besides all of that, ends justifying the means is NOT a halachic rationale. Especially since your brother being in a hypothetically mildly questionable scenario doesn't count as an end that can even be justified.


It absolutely is. See the example of Eliyahu worshiping on a bamah, which was clearly issur, in order to put an end to baal worship. In a shas hadchak, our rabanim have the ability to enact the decrees needed to meet the challenges of the times.


You are correct - in the short term, it MIGHT have been though even knowing about the SY community I don't buy it at all. However, remember, this has not been put in place for the short term, or sha'as hadchak. At this point, it has become a defining point of the community.

More importantly, if you want to paskin from Navi that you can pass a takana to do something assur for an extended period of time - that's quite a stretch.


how do you know how long a shas hadchak is? how do you know how long "short term" is?

again, I was simply putting out there a possible explanation as I am not familiar with this particular takana. these are not lay leaders enforcing this takana, but all of the syrian community's rabanim and I find it very difficult to believe that they are not aware of this issur d'oraisa and that they believe this takana is not over it.

unless someone from the syrian community can contact a rav for the rational behind the psak this thread is just going in circles and should be closed.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:32 am    Post subject: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
I found this online, hope it is helpful:

The Syrian ban on Converts
A SEPHARDIC BAN ON CONVERTS

by Rabbi Dr. Zevuelen Lieberman

TRADITION, 23(2), Winter 1988 © 1988 Rabbinical Council of America

Dr. Lieberman is Rabbi of Congregation Beth Torah in Brooklyn, N.Y., one of the major synagogues of the Syrian-Sephardic Jewish community.

. [Beginning of article deleted]
A close-knit pattern of social and economic inter-relationships motivates most people to marry within the community; indeed, better than ninety percent of the families are intra-communally married. However, it is the realization that no converts whatsoever will be accepted that keeps all but the most marginally affiliated from embarking upon serious social relationships with non-Jews. In 1935, following the example of the Syrian-Sephardic Jewish community of Argentina, the Brooklyn beit din promulgated a ban on accepting any converts; this was reaffirmed by the rabbinical authorities in 1946 and 1972. These various proclamations were initiated by the community's rabbinical leaders. However, in 1984, sensing the increasing social rressures, the lay leaders initiated a public affirmation of the ban; they recognized it to be a necessary and effective tool for maintaining the'social cohesiveness of the community. The ban is based on the right of the community to promulgate takanot and prohibitions. This is codified in the Shulhan Arukh and goes back to talmudic times, when Rav found a problematic situation regarding oaths in the Babylonian community: Bik'a matsa ve'Kadar gader-"He found an open valley and built a fence."
The current situation in America regarding conversions, where­bv most gerut is done for the purpose of marriage, represents a sham , and travesty of the Jewish tradition. But the Sephardic community's approach is proof of the power of a kehilla to protect its heritage and traditions, even though it may not be reproduceable across all American Jewish communities. Our ban does not necessarily deny the legitimacy of any specific conversion; it does deny the convert and his or her Sephardic spouse (and their children) membership in the community. Of course, it does not apply to descendants of people who underwent a legitimate conversion prior to 1935 or to adopted children converted at birth.

What follows is an English translation of the Hebrew proclama­tions of 1935 and 1946, as well as the text of the 1984 proclamation.

A RABBINICAL PROCLAMATION Adar 5695 (February 1935)

We have observed the conditions prevailing in the general Jewish comrnunity, where some youth have left the haven of their faith and have assimilated with non-Jews; in certain cases they have made efforts to marry gentiles, sometimes without any effort to convert them, and other times an effort is made for conversion to our faith, .m action which is absolutely invalid and worthless in the eyes of the law of our Torah. We have therefore bestirred ourselves to build and establish an iron wall to protect our identity and religious integrity and to bolster the strong foundations of our faith and religious purity which we have maintained for many centuries going back to our country of origin, Syria.

We, the undersigned rabbis, constituting the Religious Court, together with the Executive Committee of the Magen David Congregation and the outstanding laymen of the community, do hereby decree, with the authority of our Holy Torah, that no male or female member of our community has the right to intermarry with non. Jews; this law covers conversions, which we consider to be fictitious and valueless. We further decree that no future rabbinic court of the community should have the right or authority to convert male Or female non-Jews who seek to marry into our community. We have followed the example of the community in Argentina, which main. tains a rabbinic ban on any of the marital arrangements enumerated above, an edict which has received the wholehearted and unqualified endorsement of the Chief Rabbinate in Israel. This responsa is discussed in detail in Devar Sha 'ul, Yoreh Deah, Part II to Part VI. In the event that any member of our community should ignore our ruling and marry, their issue will have to suffer the consequences. Announcements to this effect will be made advising the community not to allow any marriage with children of such converts. We are confident that the Jewish People are a holy people and they will adhere to the decision of their rabbis and will not conceive of doing otherwise.
Chief Rabbi Haim Tawil
Rabbi Jacob Kassin
Rabbi Murad Masalton
Rabbi Moshe Gindi
Rabbi Moshe Dweck Kassab

A SUBSEQUENT CLARIFICATION OF THE ORIGINAL PROCLAMATION

Adar 5706 (February 1946) On the 9th day of Adar I in the year 5706 corresponding to the 10th day of February, 1946, the rabbis of the community and the Committee of Magen David Congregation once again discussed the question of intermarriage and conversions. The following religious rabbinic decisions were promulgated and accepted:
I. Our community will never accept any converts, male or female, for marriage.
2. The rabbi will not perform any religious ceremonies for such couples, I.e., marriages, circumcisions, bar mitzvahs, etc. In fact, the Congregation's premises will be barred to them for use of any religious or social nature.
3. The Mesadrim of the Congregation will not accord any honors to the convert or one married to a convert, such as offering himlln an Aliyah to the Sefer Torah. In addition, the aforesaid person, male or female, will not be allowed to purchase a seat, permanently (If for the holidays, in our Congregations.
4. After death of said person, he or she is not to be buried on the cemetery of our community, known as Rodfe Zedek, regardless elf financial considerations. Seal of the Beth Din of Magen David Congregation
Chief Rabbi Jacob S. Kassin

REAFFIRMING OUR TRADITION

WHEREAS. throughout the history of our community, our rabbis and lay leaders have always recognized the threat of conversions and the danger of intermarriage and assimilation; and have issued warnings and proclamations concerning these evils in February 1935, February 1946 and in May 1972. NOW. THEREFORE, we assembled rabbis and Presidents of the congregations and organizations of the Syrian and Near Eastern Jewish communities of Greater New York and New Jersey do now and hereby reaffirm these proclamations, and pledge ourselves to uphold, enforce and promulgate these regulations. We further declare that Shabbat Shuvah of each year be designated as a day to urge our people to rededicate themselves to these principles. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, we have caused this document to he prepared and have affixed our signatures thereto, at a special convocation held on this third day of Sivan 5744 corresponding to the 3rd day of June. 1984.

Dr. Jacob S. Kassin Chief Rabbi

The proclamation was signed by the rabbis and presidents of every synagogue. yeshivah. and social organization of the Sephardic Jcwish communities of New York and New Jersey.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:39 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?


So don't. But stop bugging everyone here who already said they don't know the full halachic reasoning, and seek out a rabbi who does. I don't know why you insist on arguing your point when no one here claims to have a complete counter argument. People here are entitled to blind faith as much as you are entitled to your halachic reasoning. Since you won't find it here, you can start looking elsewhere.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:42 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
jelly belly wrote:
Tzippora wrote:
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?


So don't. But stop bugging everyone here who already said they don't know the full halachic reasoning, and seek out a rabbi who does. I don't know why you insist on arguing your point when no one here claims to have a complete counter argument. People here are entitled to blind faith as much as you are entitled to your halachic reasoning. Since you won't find it here, you can start looking elsewhere.


Hopefully my post above will help her
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:42 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
jelly belly wrote:
Tzippora wrote:
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?


So don't. But stop bugging everyone here who already said they don't know the full halachic reasoning, and seek out a rabbi who does. I don't know why you insist on arguing your point when no one here claims to have a complete counter argument. People here are entitled to blind faith as much as you are entitled to your halachic reasoning. Since you won't find it here, you can start looking elsewhere.


Not really, they can't justify their blind faith. I at least could do that for my halachic reasoning in some fashion.

And this gripe is not exclusive to the SY community - in case anyone is wondering.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:45 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
jelly belly wrote:
Tzippora wrote:
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?


So don't. But stop bugging everyone here who already said they don't know the full halachic reasoning, and seek out a rabbi who does. I don't know why you insist on arguing your point when no one here claims to have a complete counter argument. People here are entitled to blind faith as much as you are entitled to your halachic reasoning. Since you won't find it here, you can start looking elsewhere.


Not really, they can't justify their blind faith. I at least could do that for my halachic reasoning in some fashion.

And this gripe is not exclusive to the SY community - in case anyone is wondering.


Why is anyone required to justify their blind faith to you? Please, just go speak to a knowledgeable rabbi and get your answers. No one is trying to hide anything from you, but your hostility is not pleasant.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 12:45 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
jelly belly wrote:
Tzippora wrote:
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?


So don't. But stop bugging everyone here who already said they don't know the full halachic reasoning, and seek out a rabbi who does. I don't know why you insist on arguing your point when no one here claims to have a complete counter argument. People here are entitled to blind faith as much as you are entitled to your halachic reasoning. Since you won't find it here, you can start looking elsewhere.


Not really, they can't justify their blind faith. I at least could do that for my halachic reasoning in some fashion.

And this gripe is not exclusive to the SY community - in case anyone is wondering.


Did you read my post above? Clearly the rabanim have halachic backing for their takana.

Anyone have a copy of Devar Sha 'ul, Yoreh Deah, Part II to Part VI so we can get additional details? I'll see if I can find it on-line, but it's a long shot.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 1:01 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
chavamom wrote:
bakingmama wrote:
freidasima wrote:
From what I understood the takonos were put in place in this kehilla because at the time, the issue of inui hager when weighted against that of bringing in someone to the kehilla who would not keep yiddishkeit correctly or not be converted correctly, was negligible. Meaning in the first place the whole idea was that Syrians were to marry syrians! Period. They weren't the only kehilla like this, I'm familiar with the mashad persian community which is just the opposite, anusim, marranos, and they only married mashadis for generations!

The problem is today with our heightened sense of PC when it comes to so many things. Syrians who want to marry out of the takono, where their love for their future spouse is greater than their respect for communal takonos, CAN of course marry out technically of the community and marry their giores or ger by a different and in a different kehilla. They just can't stay in the syrian kehilla. It's just the way things are.

How often does the problem come up in this kehilla in practice.


Um, yeah...lol we have less than 1% intermarriage because of the ban, syrians marrying only syrians HAHA very cute.. Not really, but even if they did, then we would not have any guy bringing home an italian girl from Lincloln high school to marry. That's what they faced in those days. As to why we keep it today, after so many years, I can not answer, but I can tell you that it does keep people in check. The community is not totally frum, we are a mixed bag, so it does pertain to many people today as well.


I'm not sure how effective this is today. I know several couples where the guy was Syrian, the girl converted and they just went to the local Orthodox Beis Din without worrying so much about being accepted by the Syrian community. As one said "I go to Young Israel. Who cares if the beit keneset in Flatbush won't have me?"
there will always be ppl who will do what they want no matter what ''the community'' says . obviously they aren't part of that community just sy. any rabbi will marry them, but not sy. But as far as how effective this takana is , as far as I know it is still strongly in effect ( for the ppl who wish to be part of the community) people can always do as they wish.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 1:11 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
bakingmama wrote:
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I don't have to respect anything for no good reason.

Inspired, this is all after te fact apologetics for the ruling. This rule claims to be strict in rules of conversion (can I get a source for banning conversion at all when the jews are well off? I understand that an individual convert should not have ulterior motives, but only in the case of shlomo was this true on a national level). But by doing so it directly violates an issur doraisa of inui hager. Either I'm suddenly more machmir than everyone here, or theres another reason behind this.


Tziporra, I dont know what youre getting at but your hostility is tangible. Go check out your facts before you ramble on and on about how wrong YOU think this is. The rabbis did this with Dat Torah, and they werent some heckle and shmeckle rabbis...It saved my community from being mostly non jews and lost to Judiasm, like most of the ashkenaz world where 51% are intermarried in America. We are Baruch Hashem intact because of it. YOU may not understand, that doesn't mean it wasn't the right thing to do then and isn't right to keep it going now. END RANT Evil or Very Mad

she cant understand it, dont waist yout time...and come join us in the sephardic circle Smile
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 1:41 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
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Gold21: Syrians generally don't mind their sons marrying Ashkenazim. They do mind their daughter marrying an Ashkenaz guy.


thats funny! cuz I think that ashkenazim would be OK with their sons marrying sefardic girls, but not so much with their daughters marrying sefardic boys. so I guess a shidduch between a syrian and an ashkenaz doesnt happen that often, since we will both only be OK with the boy "marrying out" Wink .

the reason I would have to keep my daughter (I dont even have a daughter yet LOL!) from marrying a sefardic boy is mostly because of cultural expectations and gender roles in the sefardic world- an ashkenaz girl would probably have a hard time keeping up with what is expected of her in the syrian world. not in a bad way, just a fact. (like ashkenaz girls are probably not as amazing at homemaking and cooking as their syrian counterparts, and they usually want to be professionals or work out of the home, which is not so common in the syrian world.)

I would also hesitate about marrying off my (not-yet-existing!) daughter to a chassidish man- for basically the same reasons listed above!!


I know dozens of Ashkenaz women who married SY men (they either met in college or got married 40+ years ago to a yeshiva guy because very few SYs girls wanted yeshiva guys).

Apparently one of the main concerns are that they should be able to eat rice on Pesach.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 2:17 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
turca wrote:
bakingmama wrote:
Tzippora wrote:
I don't have to respect anything for no good reason.

Inspired, this is all after te fact apologetics for the ruling. This rule claims to be strict in rules of conversion (can I get a source for banning conversion at all when the jews are well off? I understand that an individual convert should not have ulterior motives, but only in the case of shlomo was this true on a national level). But by doing so it directly violates an issur doraisa of inui hager. Either I'm suddenly more machmir than everyone here, or theres another reason behind this.


Tziporra, I dont know what youre getting at but your hostility is tangible. Go check out your facts before you ramble on and on about how wrong YOU think this is. The rabbis did this with Dat Torah, and they werent some heckle and shmeckle rabbis...It saved my community from being mostly non jews and lost to Judiasm, like most of the ashkenaz world where 51% are intermarried in America. We are Baruch Hashem intact because of it. YOU may not understand, that doesn't mean it wasn't the right thing to do then and isn't right to keep it going now. END RANT Evil or Very Mad

she cant understand it, dont waist yout time...and come join us in the sephardic circle Smile

Lol Thanks-was just about to Smile
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 2:18 am    Post subject: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Enough explaining 
No matter what we try to say, without living amongst us you will never understand us - you don't know our history and makeup-our struggles and function  as a community and a people. Without knowing the way we work and who we all are as a group you will never understand the reasons for what we do and why -specifically what our holy and respected rabbis do to lead us in the right way and keep us together as a community.  Enough said. 
 
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 4:00 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
No, we are providing a halachic reason why such a ban would be assur. Not a single person has refuted the logic - that anyone holding by this ban would be over the sin of inui hager.

"How could you think you know better than Rabbi X" is NOT a halachic rationale. Neither is that the ends justify the means.

Someone try giving me a halachic reason this is not a violation of an issur doraisa.

Also, I'm not taking it personally - not a gioret, don't happen to have any in my family or anything like that. I take bad halachic arguments personally, though. They do indeed make me hostile to the bad halachic argument.


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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 4:04 am    Post subject: Re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
amother wrote:
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[Oh, OUCH
your post was really ignorant and hurtful. You're probably trying to make the OP feel better, which is fine, I also assured her that her family is 100%, but sounds like you dont know the facts. Lots of us are very frum, probably just like you, and not just the younger generation.
The rabbis who put forth the edict didnt just do it haphazzardly, they did it withthe utmost of thought and with Dat Torah, they were great, holy men...it's so disrespectful of you to say "Do you think the people who made this rule will be rewarded for it after 120? I don't." YUCK!


I'm the amother you quoted. I know the facts, I'm from the community.

I know it is not just the younger generation. Members from all ages range from being extremely frum to those who drive to shul on Shabbat and go to work in the afternoon. The community is united by culture, not by observance level as many Ashkenazi communities are. But you know this. That said, the the younger generation as a whole is moving towards being more observant as far as I can see.

The Rabbis who put forth the edict did so many years ago at a time when a number of young men from the community went out of town on business and returned with non-Jewish girl he wished to marry. A short time and makeshift "conversion" later, the girl was "Jewish" and the deal was done. Those Rabbis did indeed do good to prevent such marriages from taking place.

But this was a LONG time ago. I don't know if such conversions exist nowadays. If they do, they are surely not considered kosher in the orthoxdox world. Geirut these days is extremely tough, lengthy and indeed a convert who went through a well respected Beth Din is considered Jewish in the Syrian community.

For this reason, I strongly oppose the ban. I think it is disrespectful to converts, to our fellow Jews to call "intermarriage" their wedding unless it really is to a non-Jew. Even from a cultural perspective, which is most important here, I believe that a convert from a similar cultural background to the community would fit in better and preserve the traditions better than for example a Polish girl who can trace their Jewish lineage back 20 generations. (FTR I think both should be accepted.)

When reading about such prejudice and segregation in ours and other communities, I find myself wondering where is G-d in all of this?

“Never accept a convert or a child born of a convert,” Kassin told me by phone, summarizing the message. “Push them away with strong hands from our community. Why? Because we don’t want gentile characteristics.”

I say YUCK to that. I do not believe that G-d wants us to push gerim away. I believe he wants all Jews to persue an obervant Jewish life and to live in harmony with one another. We have enough opposition from the non-Jewish world, we don't need to create barriers between ourselves too. So no, while I don't dispute that the present day Rabbomin who insist on enforcing this tanaka do many wonderful things for which they will be rewarded after 120, I do not believe that this blatant rejection of honest, sincere gerim from our community will be one of them.


I actually know of two such conversions done today, for purposes of marriage, by what I presume to be reputable Batei Din. One such giyores has already reverted to her old ways of life (after more than a decade of Jewish life) and I wonder what will happen with the second, who happens to be married to my cousin. There is a third man in my community who is planning to do the same thing with his non-Jewish girlfriend and his mother is tearing her hair out. It does happen today and is still a cause for concern.
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 4:14 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
Jelly Belly - I don't believe in blind faith. Anyone want to explain the halacha already or do I have to keep letting people appeal to authority?

Why are you saying that not marrying a ger is a form of inui? "Inui" isn't just "anything the other person doesn't like," it means specific assur actions (lashon hara, cheating in business, hurtful speech, etc).

There are groups of Jews already that can't marry geirim (Cohanim) and groups of geirim that historically couldn't marry into the Israelite community, or could only marry in after a certain number of generations. If those rules don't violate the prohibition on oppressing a ger, who says this one does?
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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 4:14 am    Post subject: Re: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
Tzippora wrote:
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Tzippora wrote:
No, we are providing a halachic reason why such a ban would be assur. Not a single person has refuted the logic - that anyone holding by this ban would be over the sin of inui hager.

"How could you think you know better than Rabbi X" is NOT a halachic rationale. Neither is that the ends justify the means.

Someone try giving me a halachic reason this is not a violation of an issur doraisa.

Also, I'm not taking it personally - not a gioret, don't happen to have any in my family or anything like that. I take bad halachic arguments personally, though. They do indeed make me hostile to the bad halachic argument.

Ya know what , I guess I'm just temmistic, I trust my rabbis, I trust that they checked every angle before they enacted such a strict edict. Especially since it was introduced by Rabbi Yaacob Kassin, who served as Av Beit Din in Yerushalayim from the age of 26. I trust that he and the other talmidei chachamim actually lived Torah and knew a heck of a lot more than myself or some other amothers...



I don't believe in temimuskeit when it comes to lomdus and halacha. I'm a litvak and don't believe in abdicating my intellectual responsibility. And even if I would have taken their word for it, I sure as heck have no reason to take yours.


Do you realize how ridiculous you appear? You keep demanding halachic reasoning for the ban, everyone tells you they don't know the reasoning but trust their rabbanim and you keeping yelling that that's not good enough for you. No one here has the answer for you, except yummymummy's post, so if you need more of an answer, call up the rabbanim of the Syrian community and demand one from them.


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PostPosted: Tue, Jan 31 2012, 4:19 am    Post subject: re: I'm not really Jewish according to YOUR group?
 
But this section is called Halachic question and discussions, the implication being that there's something to discuss. An appeal to authority ends any conversation. Presumably we are meant to be discussing the content of specific halachic decisions, not just chanting in unison, "rabbis are always right."
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