To invite or not to invite??

Executive Member Joined: Jan 29 2006 Posts: 416

We are planning a simcha in a couple of months. A few people have offered to host family members of mine over shabbos which is very nice. they have the space and do not mind at all. The thing is, we are not close to either of them. Are we obligated to invite them to the party? the entire shul is invited to the kiddush that we will be making on shabbos, so of course they are included. Not sure what to do...

Posted: Sun, Dec 04 2011, 6:27 pm Post subject:

I think it depends on the norms of your community. I know that where I live, we have hosted people and not expected nor received invitations to the simcha. That was just fine for us.

Ask locally.

Diamond Member Joined: Nov 11 2007 Posts: 3787

I would feel funny taking advantage of their hospitality and not inviting them, but that's me.
But as previously suggested, find out what is the norm in the community. Perhaps it's just enough to let them know that you are happy to reciprocate as hostess when they have their own simcha.

Platinum Member Joined: May 07 2008 Posts: 8962

Posted: Mon, Dec 05 2011, 12:28 am Post subject:

In my community, its normal to host guests for others but not be invited to the meals on shabbos. We all do it for each other. The kiddush on shabbos is enough for everyone.
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