Bed time hell!!!

Gold Member Joined: Mar 21 2006 Posts: 2052

Here's the story:

My two and a half year old started around two weeks ago saying to my dh, "I don't like you." "I don't want you, go away." tonight it reached new heights he started screaming at my dh, started smacking him and would not let him anywhere near him. What are we ment to do? My dh is fantastic with the kids and he really loves them all, he is so caring I'am just lost to what to do. Has anyone else been through this? What did you do?
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Posted: Wed, Sep 27 2006, 5:38 pm Post subject: re: Bed time hell!!!

why is he going that? whats bothering him??

Posted: Wed, Sep 27 2006, 5:48 pm Post subject: re: Bed time hell!!!

Don't disregard your two year old tempers watch out and see what you can learn on how to solve it. Is your two yr doing this to anyone else ?

Especially if it's his tatty Confused

Unless it's b/c bedtime isn't fun and it's your husband putting him to bed rather then you so he thinks he's the mean one Confused

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If I know why he was doing this I would be able to put it right, but I do not. He is a very happy, lively little boy. But he knows what he wants and is very determined.

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hmmmmm I wonder whats bothering him. does ure husband have a clue?

Posted: Wed, Sep 27 2006, 5:54 pm Post subject:

Have you been away without the children recently?

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Posted: Wed, Sep 27 2006, 6:09 pm Post subject: re: Bed time hell!!!

So maybe your little one is worried that you will go off again and leave him?

If, as you say, in the past your dh and toddler have had a good relationship, then I suggest that you 'force' them to be together. Go out at bath-time and make sure your toddler knows you will be back in time to say shema and tuck him in. This way the two of them will spend time together without you around, but the 2y.o. is secure in the knowledge that you WILL be back. Sit in the car and wait for dh to call you to tell you when it's time.

Posted: Wed, Sep 27 2006, 6:16 pm Post subject: re: Bed time hell!!!

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Thinking about it I do think he is worried about me disappearing again. But he is used to going to playgroup etc... When I put him to bed in the afternoon he is fine he is really cute he shouts for about three minutes I love you mummy, sleep well mummy, bye mummy, etc... If I put him to bed at night he goes down fine and again shouts that he loves me, etc... It is only when dh puts him down.

Mummy BH Good idea, only problem I have the other two to put to bed as well at the same time.

Also it is not only at night that he is like this, if my dh tells him not to do something he goes on that he does not like him. But I can tell him not to do it he might not listen but at least he does not shout at me.

Posted: Wed, Sep 27 2006, 6:22 pm Post subject: Re: re: Bed time hell!!!

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maybe he just wants u at bedtime. why cant u put him to bed or at least come read him a story or soemthing?

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did u ask him why he is upset and whats bothering him? maybe he can tell u

Posted: Thu, Sep 28 2006, 11:52 am Post subject: re: Bed time hell!!!

he m,ay have been very upset by the fact that u left him to go away without him..... why dont u sit down with him and ask him how he felt about it, and if its true u can tell him u wont be going away without him again (any time soon...)

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It seems to me like he is just looking for attention. I personally would stick to the routine that your husband has been doing. You may want to stay in the room throughout the whole bedtime routine - to reassure him that you are not leaving - but don't get involved in putting him to bed or in answering his screams - maybe just sit in the corner reading a book (if you have nothing better to do - but maybe just for a few days) - leave the bedtime routine to your husband and have your husband reassure the child that you are staying - but don't let the kid know that his tantrum is bothering you guys.

I had an issue where my 3 year old wanted me to stay in the room - I told him I would check up on him but not stay with him. He would alway scream for me to stay - and I would calmly reply that I will check up on him. After a few days of this - he got the point.