When do you stop dressing your boys in jeans?

Posted: Thu, Aug 19 2010, 5:44 pm Post subject:

I dressed my older son in jeans till he started ganon at age 3. (Actually, the change of clothes I sent to gan for him was jeans but he only wore them once.) My younger son has been wearing them only at home or on weekends since he started playgroup at age 2. I am less and less comfortable with jeans on my children. Of course, dh is chassidish, not yeshivish.

Platinum Member Joined: Aug 29 2007 Posts: 12057

Oh yeah, I'm not yeshivish either. I do live in a rather yeshivish city though, so I know what all the people around me do.

I think its best to stop by first grade, that said my almost bar mitzvah son (who hasn't worn jeans in years based on school is 6 days a week and you can't wear jeans to school) requested jeans this summer for camp because he has friends who wear them out of school (who are from less yeshivish homes) so we bought him a pair but iy"h they grow quickly at tyhis age and that will be that. Hopefully he will know on his own that we dont wear jeans to minyan even if his friends do.

Gold Member Joined: Nov 22 2006 Posts: 1733

I was saying that personally I would stop @ 7 or 9 but it is acceptable till bar mitzvah. I think many boys stop much earlier just cuz there is no occasion to wear jeans they are in school sun-fri after 1st grade - school doesnt allow them and im not the type of parent to change them when they get home (not a believer in play clothes) so really there is no time to wear them. also since other boys in his class wont be wearing them most kids would like to be the same as their class.
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Gold Member Joined: Nov 22 2006 Posts: 1733

I won't stop dressing my sons in jeans. My dh wears jeans almost every day besides for Shabbos.
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Executive Member Joined: Jul 18 2010 Posts: 369

I think jeans are ok for preschool. from a practical point of view they match to everything and wear well. I only buy jeans that dont have the faded or ripped look. now of course check the rules in the school.
im chassidish, but my son is going to a headstart that doesnt have rules. I bought him dark blue, and black jeans. I also bought him jeans shorts for next summer. I think they look adorable.

Active Poster Joined: Dec 02 2007 Posts: 74

Im not saying this to stir up trouble, its coming from honest curiosity. I am FFB and live in NY. But I have never understood what is wrong with jeans? I am quite aware that there is a stigma but honestly its just a more casual material. I wear denim when I am casual, I wouldnt wear it to work. So whats wrong with a man wearing it when he is being casual, not to work. Why is there a stigma? Having said that my husband wont wear jeans although he also cant come up with a good explanation. My kids do although I think in their yeshiva past I pre1 A its not ok. We are sending to a top notch world class yeshiva. So mothers..... again this is not to cause trouble...what reasons do you have? Any are there any mothers out there whoes husbands do wear jeans and are considered frum yirei shamyim?

I think the school we plan on sending our son to doesn't allow jeans starting from first grade. My husband is in kollel, and jeans are not acceptable when he's out and about in our city, representing the kollel. When we go on vacation to places where people don't know him and the kollel he is representing, he wears jeans. I guess I'll see whether our son will stand out or fit in if he's wearing jeans outside of school past age 6 or so. If other boys do it, and he likes jeans, it's ok with me. If it's not really accepted among our crowd, we'll have to find a good alternative.

Diamond Member Joined: Mar 11 2010 Posts: 3090

The last time my ds wore jeans was the summer he turned 3. Now he just wears cargo pants in the weekday instead.

Executive Member Joined: Oct 29 2009 Posts: 368

We live in Lakewood so DS will only start school at 5. He will wear jeans till then (one more year). I love jeans. They are so neat and cute and go with everything. I usually stick to neat, dark styles, not big pockets or cargo pants, but that's just because I like those styles better.

Active Poster Joined: Dec 02 2007 Posts: 74

nice to know Im not the only one who is wondering! I would love if my DH would wear them, they look so clean cut with a nice polo, and so durable!

Silver Member Joined: Jul 04 2010 Age: 31 Posts: 757

my almost 14 year old DS would KILL for jeans! He honestly sees it as unfair that my baby and 6 year old DD can wear jeans/jean skirt, and that I wear jean skirts.

I dont have an answer for him so I leave it up to his father.

Silver Member Joined: Jun 14 2009 Posts: 806

till my son goes to cheder at age 5 he will be wearing the jeans I love the look he maches polos/sweater with his 6 yr old brother but 6 yr old wears navy pants and 4 yr old wears jeans I live in lakewood and go to a yeshivish cheder