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| chocolate moose |
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| Posted: Fri, Feb 26 2010, 2:27 pm Post subject: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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| Why don't you move this to a thread where there can be anonymous posting?
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My expectation is to survive each day. So far it's working.
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| Posted: Sat, Feb 27 2010, 2:56 pm Post subject: Re: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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| Chani wrote: | | Why don't you move this to a thread where there can be anonymous posting? | Yeah, you'd probably have more discussion that way.
As for me- I know that many of my deeper expectations of myself are unrealistic (don't we all want to be SuperWoman?) and as such aren't being met (duh!). I am more of a perfectionist by nature, even though I know (cognitively!) that those tendencies are destructive. I am working at slowly changing those expectations, and BH doing quite well.
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| You're posting under a screen name, for Heaven's sake ... if you think people know who you are irl just change the details slightly.
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No. I'm in a very difficult situation in one part of my life, and while my rational mind tells me what to do to fix it, my emotional part holds me back alittle. I am close to overcomng that I hope.
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| Posted: Sat, Feb 27 2010, 9:23 pm Post subject: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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| no not a chance. im very critical of my skills as a housewife, and as hard as I try, im upset that I couldnt accomplish more. so, from that aspect, I dont think I will ever live up to my expectations for myself... unless I really work on changing my atitude...
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| Posted: Sat, Feb 27 2010, 11:44 pm Post subject: Re: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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| gold21 wrote: | | no not a chance. im very critical of my skills as a housewife, and as hard as I try, im upset that I couldnt accomplish more. so, from that aspect, I dont think I will ever live up to my expectations for myself... unless I really work on changing my atitude... |
could not agree more Gold! Its all in the attitude!!
I felt like I was failing as a mother all the time. ARe my kids happy, am I a happy mom? Am I giving them enough experiences in life in this age of Gymnastics+soccor +music classes etc stimulation. Am I paying them enough attention. Do they have enough friends etc.
And then I realized one day that before bedtime as I was reenacting one of their favorite movies with them and singing . THey were laughing there heads off and having a blast! These are my kids! They enjoy the music I listen too and the movies that I watched as a child and the stories I tell. ( though this will change with age im sure) Stop sweating it and enjoy these moments! Its the relationships we have in life with our loved ones that are the most important!
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| Posted: Mon, Mar 01 2010, 12:19 pm Post subject: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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I'm far from perfect but yes, I am happy with what I do. I don't see why I should be hard on myself.
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| Posted: Mon, Mar 01 2010, 10:31 pm Post subject: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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No. My kids love me and I have a great relationship with them but sometimes I tell myself that's because they don't know any better. I can be a perfectionist sometimes and have to remind myself when it comes to my family that it's ok to fail, ok to make mistakes, and ok to be human. I wish I had more patience. I think I'm better than I used to be but it's so hard!!! I think by the time I'm a little old lady I'll be a really nice lady, I'm looking forward to it!
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No.
The house can always be cleaner.
I can always be a better mother.
I can always be more spiritual than I am.
I can always be a better spouse.
Oh well, that's life & that's why where here, to keep on working....until we drop dead. (literally)
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| Posted: Tue, Mar 02 2010, 4:14 am Post subject: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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I do disappoint myself very often, but I've also learned to forgive myself for my mistakes. I keep on telling myself that I'm not meant to be perfect, I'm just meant to perfect myself as much as I can. I'm not a finished project, just a work in progress, and I still have the rest of my life ahead of me to work on it.
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| Posted: Tue, Mar 02 2010, 11:15 am Post subject: Re: re: Are you living up to your expectations for yourself? |
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| hadasa wrote: | | I do disappoint myself very often, but I've also learned to forgive myself for my mistakes. I keep on telling myself that I'm not meant to be perfect, I'm just meant to perfect myself as much as I can. I'm not a finished project, just a work in progress, and I still have the rest of my life ahead of me to work on it. |
Ditto!!
Couldn't have written it any better!
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| Ronit wrote: | No.
The house can always be cleaner.
I can always be a better mother.
I can always be more spiritual than I am.
I can always be a better spouse.
Oh well, that's life & that's why where here, to keep on working....until we drop dead. (literally) |
Your post made me think something (NOT that this what you project, in any way, please don't take it that way) that while life means not being static and improving (which is what you DID say, quite well) we'd better not get too hyped out about our inadequacies or imperfections or we may pass it on to our kids.
Apropos to I'm not sure what over the last few years there's been an interesting change in Good Housekeeping, a column called Good Enough Housekeeping. Talk about signs of the times...
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