Do you have guests Shabbos dinner/lunch or both?

Do you generally have guests both Lunch and Dinner of the same Shabbos?

I try and invite people over friday night, just because thats an easier meal to cook for, and the house is tidier, but we usually end up bringing home guests for lunch as well. If we invite families with kids, it's usually lunch too.

I hardly have guests. For some reason, people don't really do it around here. At best they meet for snack/4-5 pm meal on shabbes.

But when we did, the person was there from before to after shabbes.
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Gold Member Joined: Mar 08 2006 Posts: 2405

always have guests for both meals.

Silver Member Joined: Nov 18 2009 Posts: 668

I like having guests for lunch rather than friday night bec I find to prepare lunch is easier than to prepare the friday night meal but sometimes well have guests for both

in the summer I often invite people over for shalosh seudos rather then lunch, people are a bit more soicable then and not pining for thier shluf. Wink

And we have time to tidy up a bit!

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Pretty much just for yomtov, unless there's a special reason. We're tired on Friday night and by day dh eats in shul.

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 28 2005 Posts: 4653

Once every so often, and always give them the choice of meals. I never mix-and-match guests. I always invite only one single/couple/family as then we can tailor conversation and such just to them.

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We almost every week have guests for lunch. Unless we're away, or manage to go out. We rarely have guests for Fri. nt. dinner, because it's easier with kids during the day (both ours and theirs) and that way we can be relaxed and get to bed early and dh can study up for his shiur the next day.

If we do have guests on Fri. nt. usually it's either singles or people without kids.
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Gold Member Joined: Jul 22 2007 Posts: 1206

Usualy invite Friday night but we have a permanent (so far) sleepover Shabbos guest so he's here Shabbos day too.

Diamond Member Joined: Aug 07 2006 Posts: 2556

Ack, I clicked the wrong choice by mistake! Lunch only, unless we have overnight guests, which is rare. I am really a morning person.

Beginner Joined: Jan 22 2008 Posts: 19

Friday night meal. My parents come to me every Friday night and them we have some nephews who are learning in town

Posted: Sat, Jan 16 2010, 10:27 pm Post subject:

if we invite someone and they want to come for lunch I have no problem but were both usually insnely tired in the morning and the conversation might not flow as easily then.
also for lunch when its just the 2 of us I only serve chulent (sometimes fish) so its easier if ppl come friday night.

Senior Member Joined: Mar 05 2009 Posts: 222

We have guests often for both meals. Not always on the same week, but it is not unusual if we do. My single sister also lives near by so she is over quite a bit. Not sure if that counts as guests though.

I prefer having guests Friday night, as I find it easier to prepare for/have hot food.... But I do make the effort for shabbos day as I did this week.

My husband and I enjoy a quite meal now and again when we indulge in our favor menu items and enjoy each other's company without too much distraction.

Active Poster Joined: Aug 03 2006 Posts: 33

Both meals every week. Shabbos day is usually more spontaneous...... whoever was brought home from shul..........

Posted: Mon, Jan 18 2010, 12:25 am Post subject:

We have move in guests many times but if we have guest in the winter and it's for one meal then it's usually friday night.
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Senior Member Joined: Nov 10 2009 Posts: 219

If we have guests sleeping over (which is usually the case), then we obviously have them for both meals, otherwise it's usually just lunch. Not that I have a problem with guests coming Friday night, it just doesn't normally end up happening. What

Gold Member Joined: Aug 17 2008 Posts: 1250

When I was first married I couldn't handle it. Now that I have 1 dd, and one on the way, I see the "economy of scale" to having guests at both meals. Usually we invite someone with kids for lunch so she has playdates if the weather's too cold for her to go to shul with abba (she's 4).

Sometimes its nice to fill the house with guests. I cook nicer food (per Seraph's post) and make more of an effort (china or nice disposables vs. everyday plastic disposables.) from sheitel to manner of dress, to ensuring torah talk at the table.

I've also matured to allow people to help me serve, clear, etc. I used to feel like I was to shlep everything back and forth, get up and down. Now I have this great system of serving and it goes smoother. I am slightly anal retentitive about "ok, here is the container for this, this goes on the counter when you're done" but that's what people are looking for when they help - direction. I even get menfolk involved, esp. singles - I say "the most attractive thing about DH when we were dating was how helpful he was at the table." (it wasn't but it was something that really represented him nicely)
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