Do you bathe your kid after ever time they use the bathroom?

so my DH's mother drove me crazy this year.
she was yelling at me why, after they go to the bathroom do I not bathe the kids.
I was like what? after every bathroom? she says yes! otherwise you are not clean!
thats what she says she does- she soaks in the tub several times a day after every bathroom.
she is a very busy person but she says you must make time for hygene.
she actually made me feel very bad.
do you?

oh and please explain HOW you bathe the kids if you do!
you undress them 5 times a day? socks? shoes?
only a half bath?

Posted: Fri, Apr 21 2006, 10:53 am Post subject:

??? I'd go nuts and I only have one baby!

Posted: Fri, Apr 21 2006, 10:54 am Post subject:

I honestly think that's ridiculous, but if you really think it's a good idea, try a sitz bath.

Gold Member Joined: Jan 29 2006 Posts: 1142

Tell her there's this great new invention... kids wipes! We keep them in each bathroom, the kids use them to wipe, and it gets them really clean + they're flushable! Besides so many baths would be very bad for their skin - too drying.

~Debbie

Platinum Member Joined: Sep 20 2004 Posts: 17151

I agree with motek the behavior is a bit wierd.

I would spend all day in the bathroom if I did that.
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Platinum Member Joined: Sep 20 2004 Posts: 17151

uh, a bit weird? I was being polite calling it "bizarre" ...

Posted: Fri, Apr 21 2006, 1:58 pm Post subject:

Ok a bit wierd is an understatement, OCD behavior is more like.

Does she obesses over other things?

Platinum Member Joined: Sep 20 2004 Posts: 17151

Sounds OCD to me too.

Diamond Member Joined: Nov 10 2005 Posts: 3401

word to the wise - those flushable wipes are not always so flushable after a while. we found that out the hard way!

I think that your MIL takes it a little far for herself (maybe she should get a baday).
I could see sticking a toddler's tush under the water after a dirty diaper or first thing in the morning. my mother would do that with my kids and over yom tov I did it to my baby and 2 y.o. but only b/c I don't use baby wipes on yom tov (or shabbos) and I find the shpritz to be very annoying. (on shabbos when I can't use warm water, I am "stuck" with using the shpritz)

but, I wouldn't do it after each diaper change - only first thing in the morning if necessary and after a very dirty diaper.

Try to picture this....
Family with 10 kids, about to go on a family trip for the day. Mother tells everyone to go to the bathroom 'one last time' before the long trip.
Rolling Laughter

Family doesn't leave the house till somewhere in the mid afternoon!!

Gold Member Joined: Jan 28 2006 Posts: 1341

get some wipes and wipe them down it there is a problem

thank you. so I am not crazy.
I really cannot imagine doing that.
she made me crazy a whole yom tov! she even asked my DH how often I shower! he said none of your buisness!
I hear my baby screaming and my oldest running to me- I gotta com now!
I go to the screams, and there was my MIL with the baby plunked down in a cold empty tub shivering and soaking.
I asked her what are you doing?
she said, I thought she had a dirty diaper so I came to bathe her. but she did not have one.
I said why is she in an empty tub? fill it! shes freezing! so she says on yom tov you can't fill a tub!
I was livid!
this was the first day of yom tov, so the baby had a bath the evening before!!!
I was ready to K__l her!!!
what was she thinking?!?!? I was so angry I just picked up the poor shiveruing baby and wrapped her and whisked her away and I told her- don't you EVER bathe my kids without my permission.

how many people here bathe their kids on yom tov?
I was not aware you were allowed to- unless you HAD to.
AAAARRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! Evil or Very Mad

By the way when she asked me why I dont bathe them everytime and I told her I use baby wipes, she said: "Baby wipes?! Oh no, that just shmears and rubs it into the skin."

Diamond Member Joined: Dec 30 2004 Posts: 3194

thats nuts!!!!!

you are allowed to bath a baby on yom tov, and use hot water.

Platinum Member Joined: Aug 01 2005 Posts: 16957

My baby makes four or five bowel movements a day. If I were to bathe him five times a day, he'd turn into a prune! Do I have to jump into the shower every time I use the toilet too?

chuckle.
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