Having long sheitel to wear in the house only

My friend who is very frum recently told me that she has a long sheitel that she wears in the house only for her DH, and she buys for her kallah(s) as well for them to wear at home with their dh. Anyone else do this?

Platinum Member Joined: Jan 01 2006 Posts: 48136

we have discussed this before. it's called a bedroom sheital. do a search.

No, its not a bedroom sheitel at all. It is worn around the house instead of a snood at all times, nidda or not.

Platinum Member Joined: Jan 01 2006 Posts: 48136

Same idea, though. Why not post this in the chassidsiche section ?

why are you assuming that op is chassidish???????????

And I am thinking the same thing. I know someone totally not chassidish that the husband wants her to go outside with a tichel only so she wears a sheitel at home.

My friend, the one whom this thread is about, is yeshivish type.

Posted: Sun, Aug 23 2009, 11:13 am Post subject:

good for her, good for them. What else is there to discuss?
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if she must be tznius like outside, why wear a longer sheitel than she would outside? I would think just uncovering your hair is less expensive than buying a long sheitel just for inside the house!
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how uncomfortable!! We do the exact opposite but at least I can be comfortable in my own house!

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dont you see the greatness in that? She doesn't wear a long shaitel outside, even though it is much nicer, because of tznius. But with her husband, she is willing to spend the $ (and possibly discomfort) of having a shaitel to wear JUST FOR HIM.
How may of us like to put on a nice shaitel when we go out and rip it off right when we come home? I'm sure there is a lot to learn from this woman's act. Just read in between the lines.

The whole idea of covering our hair is that we are covering our beauty which should only be seen by dh and not by other men. Why cover it up for dh? Are there really opinions that say that a husband cannot see his wife's hair?
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Lizard it's disturbing to me. If the sheitel is really s-xier than the hair I'm not sure it should be worn outside at all. Btw I don't think it is, it's fake and not HER hair...

Yes Imashel there are such opinions and I respect them. But these women do NOT "twist" the standards by trying to have a s-xy sheitel.

Platinum Member Joined: Jan 01 2006 Posts: 48136

Convert here....

So I want a long sheitel to wear outside, right now mine is about 2 inches longer than my shoulders. I wanted like a 25 inch sheitel for a long time but is it not tznius? I have not discussed this with DH or my local Rav, just something I'm considering for the colder winter months and due to the fact I am not so skinny and the short hair seems to be out of proportion.

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"If the sheitel is really s-xier than the hair I'm not sure it should be worn outside at all"

depends in which community. not true in mine

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