Personal story about parnasa after the brith of my baby

I have two stories.

1. This happenned to a friend. She had just gotten pg, and for the time being was working almost full time, but not likely at least for a few mos after the birth would she go back, if at all. Her dh lost his job. This was late last year. A few mos later, he found a job 1)closer to home 2)right next to her son's school (to drive him) and 3) that paid MUCH more than his job before.

2. I graduated with an MS. I turned down a job in yehupitz to get married and be in a kehilla, and allow dh to spend a year in kollel. When dc1 was 1 yr old, I started to apply for jobs--anythingI was remotely qualified for and having a frum kehilla of some kind. DH's job prospects were not good. Within 6 mos, I was pg, and basically had 3 more mos to try to find something before I might as well wait until after hte baby was born. I sent out a few more resumes, and forgot about it. In the beginning of my third trimester, I got an email, a phone interview, and a face to face interview a few hours away. One month later, I had a job offer, full benefits, full relocation, etc. and they weren't even phased by my now having to wait until after the baby was born. It's a gov't contractor and hiring takes months to process. They weren't even phased by my almost 3 yr gap after graduation and joining the work force.

That said. I am still very weak, and trying to juggle more children and support my family is very scary to me. It's a fine line between having bitachon (what we must do) and relying on miracles (what we aren't allowed to do).

To SV: re your addendum - I definitely don't consider you holier than thou. I actually get great and much needed chizuk from this. My script when davening is pretty much the same. Thanks for sharing.

bitochon! one of my favorite topics! I have sooo many stories. we practically live with them!
these are a bit off topic, as they are not related to having children, but the concept is one and the same!

1-my father was on his way to put down a downpayment on the house we were buying. He went missing a few thousand dollars, cuz he just did not have it! He figured he'd go and hashem will help him..
on his way, in manhattan, he meets a friend, explains the situation, and the guy 'just happened' to have what my father was missing, in Cash!

2- my father had a flight scheduled for Motzei Shabbos, to go to israel.
Friday a non-jewish cleaner that worked at my fathers place, shows up with his Passport! he told him he found it and was going to bring it on sunday, but then 'just happened' to have decided to bring it Friday, on his way (or out of his way!) home! (had he brought it over sunday-my father would not fly, and panic, not knowing where his passport was..)

a great thing to read is 'you can learn bitochon too'- I think it is the english translation of 'shaar bitochon' in chovos halevovos.
as a previous poster mentioned, Bitochon is a TOOL, it can be used and excersised to your benefit, and the more you belive in hashem, the more he will answer your trust!! UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!!!!!
I LOVE YOU HASHEM!

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Sorry, the quotes got messed up on my last post. Here it is again:

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I think the idea is that if one has greater bitachon, the amount of b'teva hishtadlus that will ultimately be needed is less. And if one has the opposite, the amount of b'teva hishtadlus that will ultimately be needed could be more. We must do our part, but the amount of effort/time, etc. that that will ultimately take can be minimized by having bitachon.

Now, in shidduchim, it could mean a girl with bitachon, and doing her hishtadlus might still need several years, but this could be less than if she didn't have such bitachon. Or, opposite, someone might not have much bitachon, and find a first date easily, and it be b'shert. Everyone's cheshbonos are different with Hashem. We trust the Torah, and that doing our part b'teva while having bitachon will maximize the revelation of brachah and truth and goodness in our lives.
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